The Work Done in the Dark

by Mothersense, posted in Mental Health Recovery, Reclamation


On Monday, we talked about the mental health ABCs—the tools, the structure, the visible strategies. But if we are honest, sometimes you practice the steps, you do the work, and… nothing seems to change. The surface of your life still looks just as dry, cracked, or foggy as it did before.
It’s easy to feel like you’re failing when you don’t see immediate results. But real growth doesn’t start in the sun. It starts in the dark.
Think about a seed. When it’s buried in the dirt, there are no leaves yet. There are no fruits, no deep roots, no visible proof of life. To anyone looking from the outside, it looks like a whole lot of nothing. But underneath the surface, that seed is active. It’s germinating, shifting, and doing exactly what it needs to do to build a foundation. It is preparing to break through.
Every flower blooms on its own timeline, and every human is a unique, imperfectly perfect creation. We can’t force the season, and we can’t copy someone else’s timeline.
Country artist Eric Church recently spoke to a crowd of graduates and said something that cuts right to the heart of this. He told them that the world doesn’t need more cover songs—it needs your voice. It needs your unique perspective.
Trying to rush your healing or mimic someone else’s visible success is just playing a cover song. Your growth is allowed to be quiet. It is allowed to take time. The unseen work you are doing right now to take care of your mind, to protect your peace, and to just hold on in the quiet—that matters.
The seeds we plant in the dark will not grow overnight. But if you give them time, one day you will get to enjoy the beauty of the work that seed did before it ever even saw the light.
Be patient with your timeline this weekend. You are still growing, even when it’s quiet.

A is for Anxiety (And the Antidote of the Next Small Step)

by Mothersense, posted in Mental Health Recovery, Reclamation

It’s been a minute since I attempted an alphabet series here. Life has a habit of doing what life does—tangling the lines, shifting the ground beneath our feet, and demanding our full attention elsewhere. For a long time, the alphabet stopped at G, and frankly, that felt appropriate. Some letters just take up more room than others.
But hiding from the keyboard doesn’t change the scenery. So today, we start fresh. We start at the beginning.
A is for Anxiety.
We tend to talk about anxiety as if it’s just a feeling of worry, but anyone who has lived with it knows it’s physical. It’s a heavy fog that settles over your desk. It’s the tight spot in your chest that tells you everything is urgent, yet somehow makes your hands feel entirely too heavy to pick up a pen.
When you’re trying to build something new—whether that’s a business, a creative catalog, or just a routine that works—anxiety is the ultimate saboteur. It shows up looking like a mountain of unfinished business and whispers, “If you can’t climb the whole thing today, why bother putting on your shoes?”
It paralyzes us by making the big picture look impossible. It looks at a slow start or a quiet season and labels it a permanent failure.
But over the years, I’ve learned that you can’t argue your way out of anxiety. You can’t sit on the couch and think your way into peace of mind. Anxiety thrives in the thinking; it starves in the doing.
The only real antidote to a mind that’s running a million miles an hour in the wrong direction is a physical, tangible action.
And it doesn’t have to be a mountain-moving action, either.
When the fog is thick, the goal isn’t to figure out the next five years, or even the next five weeks. The goal is just to find the edge of the legal pad. It’s choosing one micro-step that proves to your brain that you are still the one holding the pen.
It’s opening the binder, even if you only read one page.
It’s writing down four bars of a lyric on a scrap piece of paper, even if the rest of the song isn’t there yet.
It’s scheduling one post, clicking one link, or sending one email.
Action breaks the spell. It clears a tiny square inch of space in the fog where you can breathe again. Things might not be moving at the speed you planned, and the horizon might still look uncertain, but a single step means you are no longer standing still.
If you’re sitting in the quiet today wondering how to get back on the wagon—whatever your wagon happens to be—don’t look at the whole road. Just look at the very next inch. Pick up the pen. Write the first word.
We’re starting at A today. And sometimes, just showing up for the first letter is victory enough.

The Anatomy of a Resilient System: Building for the “Low-Spoon” Days

by Mothersense, posted in Mental Health Recovery, Reclamation


We’ve all been there. You sit down with a fresh cup of coffee and a master plan that could rival a military operation. You’ve got the categories, the color-coded blocks, and the ambition to build an empire by sunset.
But then, life happens. Or rather, the “energy tax” hits.
Maybe it’s a high-stress week, a string of late nights, or just one of those days where the mental “spoons” you started with have seemingly vanished by noon. Suddenly, that beautiful system you built feels like a judge, pointing a finger at everything you aren’t getting done.
That’s where the guilt creeps in. We start feeling like imposters in our own lives because we aren’t hitting the “ceiling” every single day.
The Trap of the “Perfect Version”
The biggest mistake we make when organizing our lives is building a system for the “perfect version” of ourselves—the one with boundless energy and zero distractions. But a system isn’t actually “better” if it only works when you’re at 100%.
A truly resilient system—one that actually moves the needle—is built for the person you are when you’re tired, foggy, and just trying to keep the wheels turning.
The Floor vs. The Ceiling
Think of your goals in two layers: The Ceiling and The Floor.
The Ceiling is your high-energy mode. This is where the heavy lifting happens—the deep creative work, the technical problem-solving, the “building” phase.
The Floor is your baseline. It’s the absolute bare minimum required to keep the momentum alive without burning out.
On low-energy days, your only job is to stay on the floor. If you can’t write the whole chapter, write one sentence. If you can’t reorganize the entire inventory, just clear one shelf. Success isn’t hitting the ceiling every day; it’s refusing to drop below the floor.
Choosing Your Focus (When You Only Have One Spoon Left)
When energy is low, we tend to panic and try to do a little bit of everything, which usually ends in doing nothing well. Instead, ask yourself: “Which one thing will make me feel the most ‘at peace’ tomorrow morning?”
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is “Maintenance” rather than “Growth.” Pushing yourself to “build” when your tank is empty is like trying to drive a car on fumes—you’ll eventually stall out, and the recovery time will be twice as long.
Forgiving the “Invisible Work”
If you’re in a phase of life where you’re researching, planning, or laying foundations, it can feel like you have nothing to show for your effort. This is where the imposter syndrome thrives. It whispers that if there’s no finished product, the work didn’t happen.
Don’t listen.
The invisible work—the thinking, the organizing, the learning—is the infrastructure. You can’t hang the drywall until the frame is up. If today was a day for framing and not for decorating, that is still a win.
Building to Breathe
As you look at your week, ask yourself: Is my system a cage, or is it a support beam?
A better system doesn’t demand more of you; it manages what you have. It gives you permission to pivot when the spoons are low and the grace to ignore the guilt when you need to rest.
Build a system that breathes. Because you aren’t a machine, and your value isn’t measured by how many boxes you checked when you were running on empty.

The “Heart-Work” and the “Hard-Work”: Finding My Alignment

by Mothersense, posted in This Life


There is a specific kind of magic that happens when “heart-work” and “hard-work” finally begin to align. For the longest time, it felt like I was operating in a valley—navigating the shadows of uncertainty, managing personal hurdles, and wondering when the pieces would start to fit together. But lately, the view has changed. I’m no longer looking at the climb; I’m looking at the moon.
Building from the Ground Up
Building something brand new requires a unique brand of “brain power.” It’s about more than just having an idea; it’s about the grit required to utilize modern tools and technology to bring a vision to life. Whether it’s developing a recipe app to streamline the heart of the home or a recycling app to help protect our planet, these projects represent the fusion of logic and passion.
My creative world has expanded into every corner of storytelling:
The Novel: Deep, immersive world-building.
The Children’s Book: Seeing the world through a lens of wonder.
Short Stories: Capturing those fleeting moments of human connection.
The Master Catalog: Baring my soul through songwriting, turning raw emotion into lyrics and melodies that I hope will eventually find their way into the world.
The Purpose Behind the Hustle
While the creative projects feed my soul, there is a grounded, protective side to this journey. Working in insurance has become a vital part of my mission. It isn’t just about policies; it’s about the people we do all of this for. It is the safety net that protects our families and our dreams, ensuring that the hard work we put in today is preserved for tomorrow.
Tools for the Ascent
Coming out of that valley required more than just luck. It took intentionality. I’ve leaned heavily into the practices that keep my mental health steady and my focus sharp:
Gratitude Journals: Finding the “wins” even on the heavy days.
Manifestation: Being unapologetic about desiring a better life and a bigger future.
Daily Goals: Smashing those small milestones that lead to massive shifts.
Nowhere to Go But Up
Just a few months ago, things felt heavy. Today, the momentum is real. My health is back in my corner, my mind is clear, and the “alignment” everyone talks about is finally starting to feel like a reality.
When you decide to shoot for the moon, you realize that the hard lessons weren’t there to stop you—they were there to prepare you for the altitude. Here’s to the heart-work, the hard-work, and everything that happens when you finally decide to go up.

Speaking from Experience

by Mothersense, posted in Mental Health Recovery, Reclamation

Life is Too Short for “Later”

I was looking back at a post I wrote during one of the hardest pivots of my life – the end of my marriage. At the time, I realized I couldn’t keep distracting myself with projects. I had to face the “down and dirty” reality so that my children and I could move forward.
Looking back, that season wasn’t just about ending a marriage; it was about beginning a life where I took control of my own security.
The Archive :

I am divorcing my disabled husband. It’s not what you think, the difficulties were there for years and we refused to face them. In order to move forward for myself and my children I did have to face them. I had to be ok both physically and emotionally. No more throwing myself into a project or spending hours away from the issues. 

So I sat down with my husband and we had a very difficult discussion. It took time for it all to sink in with him but we agree for the most part. Our marriage is over, it has been for a few years. We were making one another miserable and we had tried counseling, techniques, but the reality was: it was over. Without hashing out the down and dirty we are both dealing with it all in our own way. The kids are adjusting. I hope he finds a way to heal himself and be a good dad. I hope my children will one day understand that I never once made this decision lightly. It took me years to gather the courage to speak the words “I want a divorce”

Now we deal with making arrangemnets and  adjustments for different things. Ex and oldest daughter are living in a different state. Oldest son is living with his new wife as of March. I have DD2 and DD3 as well as Baby boy at home with me and my new man. (That is a tale for another day) and we are doing well. 

Love and light folks!! Life is just too darn short! 


The 2026 Pivot :
When I say “Life is too darn short,” I mean it. But I also know that when life changes—when we divorce, move states, or merge families with a “new man”—our protection needs to change with us.
When I went through my divorce, I had to learn the hard way about making arrangements, updating bank accounts, and checking beneficiaries. I became an agent because I don’t want anyone else to navigate those “adjustments” alone or unprotected.
Are Your “Arrangements” Up to Date?
If you’ve gone through a divorce, a move, or a family change, your old insurance policy might still be protecting a reality that no longer exists. Let’s make sure your children are the ones who are actually set up for the future.

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Julie Kilcrease
Licensed Life Insurance Agent | Texas
NPN: 21375920
Helping you protect the life you’ve worked so hard to build.