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Embracing the Wake-Up Call:

May 14, 2025 by Mothersense, posted in This Life

My Heart, My Health, My Future

Just recently, I faced a terrifying moment that shook me to my core. Hearing the words “heart failure” was like a punch to the gut. Thankfully, after further testing, I was told there were no blockages and I wasn’t in heart failure. The relief was overwhelming—but I know I’m not out of the woods yet.

I’ll be wearing a portable telemetry monitor for a week to track my heart’s activity, keeping a blood pressure log, and likely starting a food diary for my upcoming GI appointment. New medications are now part of my daily routine, and I’m adjusting to a new normal. My heart acted up, and now it’s on the mend.

But here’s the truth: I know about diet. I know about exercise and stress management. I know I have to do better. This scare brought all my past posts and promises flooding back—reminders of what I’ve said I’d do and haven’t followed through on.

Listening to the Body’s Whispers Before They Become Screams

Our bodies are constantly communicating with us. Minor aches, fatigue, shortness of breath—these are often early warning signs. Ignoring them can lead to serious consequences. As highlighted by Southwest General Health Center, understanding and responding to these signals is vital for maintaining optimal health .medhelpclinics.com+1MindMate+1 Southwest General

Even individuals who appear healthy can face unexpected heart issues. A 28-year-old techie from Bengaluru suffered a heart attack despite daily workouts, revealing an 80% heart blockage . Similarly, Gigi Campos experienced a heart attack at 34, despite being active and receiving reassurances from doctors about her health .@EconomicTimes SELF

A New Normal: Monitoring, Medication, and Mindfulness

Adjusting to this new phase means embracing tools and practices that support heart health. Wearing a telemetry monitor, logging blood pressure, and maintaining a food diary are proactive steps. These measures not only provide valuable data for healthcare providers but also foster a deeper connection with one’s own health journey.

Medication adherence is crucial. Understanding the purpose and potential side effects of each medication empowers patients to manage their health effectively. Regular consultations with healthcare providers ensure that treatment plans remain aligned with evolving health needs.

The Emotional Toll and the Power of Support

Facing a health scare is not just a physical challenge—it’s an emotional one. Feelings of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty are common. Seeking support from mental health professionals, support groups, or loved ones can provide comfort and guidance.

Sharing experiences, like those found in the American Heart Association’s “Stories From the Heart,” can be therapeutic and inspiring . These narratives highlight resilience and the human capacity to overcome adversity.www.heart.org

Looking Ahead: Celebrating Life’s Milestones

Life is fragile, and moments of crisis often bring clarity about what truly matters. For me, the upcoming wedding of my baby girl in September is a beacon of hope and motivation. I plan on being there, celebrating this momentous occasion with her.

This journey has reinforced the importance of self-care, vigilance, and the support of a caring community. Embracing a proactive approach to health, staying informed, and cherishing life’s precious moments are now at the forefront of my priorities

Embracing the New Normal: A Wake-Up Call and a Way Forward

May 2, 2025 by Mothersense, posted in This Life

No stents. No blockages. Just a second chance I’m not wasting.

I never expected to find myself in a hospital bed, surrounded by machines and uncertainty. One day I was powering through headaches, stress, and fatigue like I always had—and the next, I was in an ambulance, symptoms screaming louder than I could ignore.

The initial tests pointed toward heart failure. Blood pressure was erratic, there was tingling in my arm, nausea, and pain that wouldn’t quit. It was overwhelming and frightening. The doctors moved quickly—every test, every scan—and for a while, it looked serious. Really serious.

But then something happened.

During the heart catheterization, they found no blockages. No need for stents. No angioplasty. Despite the initial fears, my heart was not in failure—it was simply tired, maybe inflamed, but very much intact. Miraculous? Absolutely. But then again, I am my mother’s child.

Now I’m home, and this is my new normal. And I’ve decided I’m not going to waste this wake-up call.

What I’m Doing Differently:

1. Saying Goodbye to Smoking—for Good.
No more half-hearted tries. My heart deserves better. My lungs, my body, my future deserve better. It’s hard, but healing is harder. So I choose prevention now.

2. Moving More, Stressing Less.
I’m not training for a marathon. I’m training for life. Gentle exercise, stretching, walking with purpose—it all counts. I’m also learning to sit still, breathe, and not wear stress like a badge of honor.

3. Eating with Purpose.
I used to eat “pretty well,” but now I’m focused on heart-friendly foods: lower sodium, fewer processed items, more whole foods. It’s not about restriction. It’s about respect—for what my body truly needs.

4. Listening to My Body—Really Listening.
Our bodies talk to us constantly. Mine was whispering, then it screamed. I’m tuning in now. No more pushing through warning signs or normalizing discomfort.

This experience reminded me that life doesn’t always give you loud warnings. Sometimes the signs are subtle until they’re not. So here’s what I want to tell anyone reading this:

Be mindful. Be present. You’re not invincible—but you are capable of changing course before it’s too late. I got a second chance. I’m choosing to take it seriously.

Because life is too precious to sleepwalk through.

It’s Okay to Be Selfish with Your Time—In Fact, You Should Be

April 23, 2025 by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Time is the one resource we can never get back. We can earn more money. We can rebuild relationships. But once a moment passes, it’s gone forever. That’s why being *intentional*—and sometimes unapologetically selfish—with your time is not just okay, it’s essential.We live in a world that glorifies being busy. We’re constantly asked to do more, give more, be more. But constantly pouring into others without refilling yourself is a recipe for burnout, resentment, and even health issues. Here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup.

It’s okay to say no to that fundraiser. It’s okay to skip the party, even if everyone else is going. It’s okay to let a friend know, “Hey, I love you, but my social battery is low right now. I need to rest.” This isn’t being selfish in the negative sense—it’s *self-preservation*. Protecting your peace, your energy, and your time is an act of self-respect. Every commitment you make—every “yes”—costs you something. Time, energy, money, mental bandwidth. And those things are finite.When you protect your time, you’re actually being honest about your priorities. And sometimes, those priorities need to be **you**: your health, your mental wellbeing, your finances, your peace. That’s not only acceptable—it’s *wise*.Because when you’re well-rested, grounded, and financially stable, you’re *better* for everyone around you. You’re a better friend, parent, partner, coworker, neighbor. Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re filters. They help you protect what matters most.

So let this be your permission slip:

Say no.

Stay home.

Log off.

Take the nap.

Prioritize the workout.

Decline the call.

Your time is precious. Treat it like it is. You deserve to be the main character in your own life—not just a supporting role in everyone else’s.–love and light y’all

Shift Your Perspective: Transform Your Life Today

April 14, 2025 by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Ever been in a room where everything felt a little off—too loud, too dark, too uncomfortable—only to realize later that it wasn’t the room, it was just where you were sitting?

Life is often like that.

Sometimes, we find ourselves stuck in frustration, fear, disappointment, or burnout. We look around and think, This situation is hopeless. This is never going to work. Nothing is changing. But maybe, just maybe, the problem isn’t the room—it’s our seat. Our perspective.

When we’re in the thick of a struggle, it’s easy to forget that what we see isn’t all there is. We mistake our limited view for the full picture, and we let that shape our choices, our emotions, even our identity. But a shift in perspective—like walking to the other side of the room—can transform not only how we see things but what we believe is possible.

As the writer Anaïs Nin once said, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

A Better Seat, A Better View

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Change your mindset, change your life.” That’s not just a motivational quote—it’s a practical truth. When we step back, pause, and actively choose to look at our situation differently, new options begin to emerge. Where once we saw dead ends, we start to see doors. What felt like defeat now feels like a detour toward something better.

One of my favorite lesser-known reminders comes from author Mary Schmich:
“Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.”
It’s a quote about boundaries—but it’s also about clarity. Sometimes, perspective is recognizing that the discomfort we’re feeling is a signal, not a sentence.

Perspective Doesn’t Deny Pain—It Reframes It

Let’s be clear: changing your perspective doesn’t mean ignoring reality or pretending things are okay when they’re not. It means being honest about your circumstances while also being open to seeing them through a different, more empowering lens.

Poet Mark Nepo captures this beautifully when he writes:
“To listen is to lean in, softly, with a willingness to be changed by what we hear.”
And that includes listening to ourselves—our stories, our patterns, our pain. Because sometimes, the shift in perspective comes not from looking out but from looking in.

How to Shift Your Perspective

Here are a few simple ways to change where you’re “sitting” in the moment:

Zoom out. Imagine advising a friend who’s in your exact situation. What would you tell them?
Seek contrast. Talk to someone with a totally different experience. Their viewpoint can shed light on angles you hadn’t considered.
Ask better questions. Instead of “Why is this happening to me?” try “What is this trying to teach me?”
Get physically moving. A walk, a drive, or just stepping outside can break the mental loop and bring clarity.

As the philosopher Epictetus said,
“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”
Not flashy. Not romantic. But deeply true.

In the End…

Perspective won’t magically solve every problem, but it will change how you carry it. It will determine whether the weight breaks you down—or builds you up.

So the next time life feels impossible, unfair, or too heavy, ask yourself: Is it time to change seats?

Because sometimes, a new view is all it takes to do better—and be better.

Redefining Success: Finding Peace in Life’s Surprises

April 9, 2025 by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Facing Life’s Uncertainties: Embracing the Next Chapter

At some point in our lives, we all find ourselves in that moment of reflection—the one where we look around and say, “This isn’t what I expected my life to be.” It doesn’t matter what age you are; this feeling can creep up on anyone. Whether you’re 25, 35, 45, or even nearing 60 or 65, you might find yourself questioning the trajectory of your life. Perhaps you’re not where you thought you would be. Maybe your dreams didn’t quite unfold the way you envisioned, or unexpected changes like a career shift, a loss, or a new phase of life are making you ask, “What’s next?”

Life is a journey full of unexpected twists and turns, and as we grow older, we often find ourselves facing moments of doubt and uncertainty. These feelings of questioning and reflection are commonly referred to as an “existential crisis,” and they can come at any age. Whether it’s a mid-life crisis, a career change, the loss of a loved one, or just an overwhelming sense that things aren’t where they should be, this feeling is universal. However, that doesn’t mean it has to be a negative or immobilizing experience. In fact, it can be a powerful opportunity for growth and reinvention.

So, what can you do when you feel like life hasn’t gone as expected? How can you navigate these moments of doubt and find peace and purpose moving forward?

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

First and foremost, it’s essential to acknowledge that feeling uncertain or disillusioned is normal. There’s no shame in having moments of doubt. If anything, it shows that you are human. These moments are often accompanied by frustration, regret, or even sadness—but these emotions are valid, and you don’t need to suppress them. Allowing yourself to feel them without judgment is the first step to moving forward.

Take time to process these emotions, whether it’s through journaling, talking with a trusted friend, or simply sitting with your thoughts. Reflect on what led you to this point and recognize that it’s okay to have expectations that evolve as life changes.

2. Reframe Your Perspective

One of the most important things you can do when facing an existential crisis is to reframe your perspective. Instead of seeing this period of uncertainty as a failure or missed opportunity, consider it as an invitation to reevaluate your goals, dreams, and values.

The truth is, life rarely unfolds in a straight line. It’s often full of detours, challenges, and moments where we stray from the original path. But these detours can offer new perspectives and experiences that are equally as valuable—if not more so—than the original plan. Look at your life as a work in progress, not a finished product. Each stage and each change has brought you to where you are, and this is part of the adventure.

3. Redefine Success

We often define success based on societal standards: a certain career, financial security, family life, or status. But as you get older, you begin to realize that success is a deeply personal experience. What once seemed like the perfect blueprint for happiness may no longer hold the same allure. This is your opportunity to redefine what success means for you.

Ask yourself: What truly matters to me? Is it happiness? Freedom? Creativity? Fulfillment? Health? Relationships? Redefining success based on your own values rather than external expectations will bring you greater satisfaction and peace of mind as you move forward.

4. Embrace Change and Let Go of the Past

The fear of change often holds us back from taking the necessary steps to move forward. We can get so attached to our past choices, relationships, and circumstances that we resist change, even when it’s for the better. However, change is inevitable, and sometimes it’s necessary for growth.

If you’re stuck in a place of regret or resentment, it’s important to work through these feelings and find a way to let go. Holding on to the past only keeps you anchored in a time that no longer serves you. Forgive yourself for the things you didn’t know or the decisions you wish you could take back. Life is about learning and evolving, and each decision, whether good or bad, has contributed to who you are today.

5. Take Small Steps Toward a New Beginning

When facing an existential crisis, it can feel overwhelming to think about making big changes all at once. Instead of focusing on the end goal, take small steps toward what’s next. Start with something simple, whether it’s taking up a new hobby, learning a new skill, or revisiting an old passion that brought you joy.

You don’t have to make dramatic life-altering decisions overnight. Change is often most sustainable when it’s gradual and intentional. These small steps will help you rediscover what excites and motivates you. Over time, they’ll lead to a greater sense of fulfillment and confidence.

6. Seek Support

You don’t have to go through this alone. Seek out support from friends, family, or a therapist who can help you navigate these difficult emotions. Sometimes, just talking about what you’re feeling can provide clarity and a fresh perspective. If you’re facing significant life changes, such as retirement or loss, talking with others who are going through similar experiences can be incredibly comforting and reassuring.

Remember that no matter how isolated you may feel, you are not alone. Many people have faced moments of uncertainty and emerged stronger, wiser, and more at peace with who they are. Having a support system is key to maintaining your mental and emotional well-being.

7. Embrace the Unknown

One of the most liberating things you can do when faced with an existential crisis is to embrace the unknown. Life is unpredictable, and while we may want to have everything mapped out, the beauty of life often lies in its uncertainty. It’s okay not to have all the answers.

By embracing uncertainty, you open yourself up to new possibilities and opportunities. You might not know exactly what the future holds, but that’s where the adventure lies. By remaining open to change, you allow space for creativity, growth, and the unexpected joys that life can bring.

8. Focus on What You Can Control

During times of uncertainty, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by the things outside of your control. However, focusing on what you can control—your mindset, your actions, and your attitude—can empower you to take charge of your future. When life feels chaotic, focusing on small, actionable steps can provide a sense of stability and purpose.

Take care of your mental and physical health, nurture your relationships, and pursue goals that are meaningful to you. The more you focus on the areas where you have agency, the more empowered you’ll feel to navigate whatever life throws your way.

Conclusion: Live and Light

Life will never unfold exactly as we expect it, and that’s okay. What matters most is how we respond to the curveballs life throws at us. If you find yourself feeling stuck or questioning where you are in life, remember that it’s not the end of the road—it’s the beginning of something new.

Take a deep breath, acknowledge your feelings, and know that the next chapter is yours to write. Embrace change, redefine your success, seek support, and take small steps toward the future you desire. Life is about growth, reinvention, and embracing whatever comes next.

Sign off with a sense of lightness. You are not alone in this journey, and every step forward—no matter how small—is progress. Keep living, keep evolving, and keep finding the joy in the unexpected.