It’s the Little Things That Matter

Life can be overwhelming. We all face challenges that sometimes feel impossible to overcome. Whether it’s the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, or the passing of a loved one, it’s easy to get lost in the weight of our struggles. But here’s the thing: you’ve made it through 100% of the hard days you thought might break you. And you’re still here.

Sometimes, we forget to give ourselves credit for just surviving. Life has a way of throwing curveballs, but no matter what, you’re still standing, reading this, and doing what you can to keep moving forward. That is something worth being proud of.

It’s easy to focus on what’s wrong, what’s missing, or what hasn’t gone right. But if you can, try to shift your attention to the little things—the moments of joy and comfort that we often overlook. Those small acts of self-care that may seem insignificant in the grand scheme of things actually mean so much.

So, take a deep breath. You deserve it. Maybe it’s enjoying a cup of coffee or tea in peace. Maybe it’s stepping outside for a few minutes of fresh air. Perhaps it’s treating yourself to something simple, like ordering your favorite meal or watching a show you love. Whatever it is, give yourself permission to enjoy those moments without guilt.

Taking time for yourself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. The things you do, no matter how small, matter to you. They are reminders of what you’ve endured and what you are capable of. You are allowed to take breaks. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to find joy in the simple things.

Remember, you can do this. Even on the hardest days, when you feel like you’re just barely holding on, you’re doing better than you think. Don’t forget to be proud of yourself for getting through each moment, each challenge. You are strong, and you deserve to celebrate the small victories.

The journey may not always be easy, but the little things along the way are what can keep you grounded, remind you of your strength, and help you keep moving forward. So take a moment to be proud of yourself, because you’ve earned it. You are here. And that’s enough.

Functional Freeze: How we get unstuck


Understanding Functional Freeze: Its Impact on Mental and Physical Well-Being and How to Break Free


We all experience moments of feeling stuck or unable to move forward, especially when faced with overwhelming stress, uncertainty, or even mundane daily pressures. However, sometimes this feeling becomes more than just a brief moment of hesitation—it can manifest as a state known as functional freeze. This state can have profound effects on our mental and physical health, making it harder to take action and feel motivated. In this post, we’ll explore what functional freeze is, how it affects us, and practical steps to help break free from it.
What is Functional Freeze?
Functional freeze is a psychological and physiological response that often occurs when our brains perceive a threat or challenge, but we feel incapable of dealing with it. It’s a state of immobilization, where we feel stuck in place—unable to move forward, make decisions, or take action. Unlike the more familiar fight-or-flight response, freeze often leads to an overall sense of stagnation rather than heightened energy.
This freeze response can be triggered by any number of factors, such as:
Overwhelm from too many tasks or responsibilities
Uncertainty or fear about the future
A traumatic or emotional event that leaves you feeling paralyzed
Anxiety or depression that creates a mental block
How Functional Freeze Affects Us
Mentally: When we experience functional freeze, our minds can become foggy, and decision-making becomes increasingly difficult. We may ruminate on problems without being able to take constructive steps to address them. This mental paralysis can also fuel anxiety and self-doubt, making us question our abilities and decisions.
Physically: On a physical level, functional freeze often results in a lack of energy or motivation. You might feel exhausted even though you haven’t done anything strenuous. This leads to a cycle of inactivity that further exacerbates feelings of helplessness or frustration. Long-term, the freeze response can also affect sleep patterns, appetite, and overall health, making it harder for your body to recover from stress.
Steps to Break Free from Functional Freeze
Acknowledge and Accept
The first step to overcoming functional freeze is acknowledging it without judgment. Recognizing that you’re in a freeze state can reduce the shame or frustration that often accompanies it. It’s important to remind yourself that this is a natural response, not a personal failure.


Start Small
When overwhelmed, the sheer scale of tasks can seem impossible. Begin by breaking things down into smaller, manageable pieces. Focus on completing a small, easy task that you know you can accomplish. The act of doing something, no matter how small, will trigger a sense of accomplishment and help you gain momentum.


Mindful Movement
Physical movement can help “reset” the body and break the freeze cycle. This doesn’t have to mean a strenuous workout—gentle stretching, yoga, or even a short walk can help release tension and get your blood flowing. Movement stimulates the release of dopamine and serotonin, which can help shift your mood and energy levels.


Limit Distractions and Create a Routine
Creating structure can reduce feelings of chaos and uncertainty. Try setting a simple daily routine to provide some sense of control. Focus on one task at a time, and eliminate unnecessary distractions (like excessive phone use or social media) that can increase feelings of overwhelm.


Talk to Someone
Sometimes, the best way to snap out of functional freeze is by talking it out. Find a friend, family member, or therapist to express how you’re feeling. Speaking about your thoughts can provide clarity, help you process emotions, and even offer new perspectives on your situation.


Practice Self-Compassion
Don’t be hard on yourself if you’re feeling stuck. Functional freeze doesn’t mean you’re lazy or incapable—it’s simply a natural response to stress. Give yourself grace, and understand that breaking free from this state is a process. Be patient with yourself as you take small steps toward recovery.


Seek Professional Help if Needed
If you find that functional freeze is affecting your day-to-day life for an extended period of time, it may be helpful to talk to a mental health professional. Therapy can provide you with tools to manage stress, anxiety, and depression, as well as help you address the root causes of your freeze response.


Final Thoughts
Functional freeze is a challenging state that many of us face at different points in our lives. While it can feel isolating and overwhelming, it’s important to remember that there are ways to break free. By acknowledging the freeze, taking small actions, and practicing self-care, you can regain your sense of control and start moving forward again—mentally, physically, and emotionally.
If you’re currently in a freeze state, take a deep breath, and remember: You are not alone, and you have the power to move past this.

Roller-coaster—of LOVE!!

I know many of my posts lately have dealt with my husband and his lack of a diagnosis. That is hard y’all we are nearly a year into this struggle but that has put some of our other family struggles on a back burner so to speak. I have high lighted what we have gone through with the doctors and hospitals without really mentioning what the kids are dealing with on a daily. This week has been a doozy!!
Maybe you have read previous posts and you know that the dwellers in my household consist of 4 children and 2 adults – because oldest boy has gone to college and boomeranged back to live with my parents and my ‘nother daughter is off at college now. I home-school the remaining 4: 15 girl, 14 girl, 11 girl and 5 boy. Oh yes, you read that right I have 3 hormonal females in my house, besides me!! On top of that little bit of delightful oldest girl 15 – Squirrel,is dyslexic, asthmatic, and hates to write but loves to talk, my 14 year old Bug, has an alphabet of diagnoses that include autism and bi-polar disorder, 11 year old girl, Lala, has migraines, lots of allergies, and some serious issues with her jaw that we are working to correct, and then we have Bear and his energetic, charismatic, all boy, 5 year old self. That is about it in a nutshell. However we have had some serious head-butting going on this week!
I don’t know if it is the stars aligning or the cycle of the moon or the hormonal cycle but my precious precious Bug is having a really difficult time coping with every single thing. I am not saying she has not been taught tools, coping skills, time outs, etc, I am saying none of it seems to be enough!! So we have had numerous angry and emotional outbursts this week and they end in lots of tears and BIG BIG hugs!! I love her so much and it kills me to see her get like this, but it is to be expected. It is part and parcel of who she is and we love her through it, we let her know that her diagnosis is not an excuse to treat people badly. We let her know that we aren’t perfect either and we get through apologies. We let siblings know to be patient with her and love her and try to be tolerant of her sometimes annoying behaviors, like wanting to listen to the same song over and over and over again. The older girl gets it even though she sometimes forgets, younger girl gets it but sometimes it is scary, and Bear well he mostly goes with the flow right now. We foster love here, we want kids that will love an support one another no matter what and I think we are getting there.
If I learn anything from my Bug it is that she feels everything very deeply and she doesn’t regret it but I hope she learns from it all. I hope she learns from watching me. Sadness is ok to feel but you don’t have to stay there and dwell on what makes you sad. Anger is ok to feel too, feel it, and let it go because it will eat you alive. Love, oh LOVE!! Loving on people is so great at times, but then they disappoint because that is human, and then love hurts. Hurt is ok too, but not a place to stay, lick your wounds and move on. Happy is a good place to be, counting your blessings even in the face of adversity. Happy to have the chance to Live, Love, and Laugh another day. Happy to see others succeed in life, not to be envious of them but happy for them to be living their dream. I hope not only my sweet and precious Bug sees all of this in me but ALL of my children see the example I am trying to be.
I don’t give up because I realize who is watching. Love and Light readers!roller-coaster-2