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All Hallow’s Eve…Halloween. Mom’s Birthday

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Halloween in America

Halloween, celebrated on October 31st, has roots that trace back to ancient Celtic festivals, particularly the Gaelic festival of Samhain. This festival marked the end of the harvest season and the onset of winter, a time when it was believed that the boundary between the living and the dead was blurred. Celts would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off roaming spirits.

When Irish immigrants brought these traditions to America in the 19th century, Halloween began to take shape as we know it today. The blend of different cultures, along with the influence of the burgeoning American celebration of harvest festivals, transformed Halloween into a community-centered holiday. By the early 20th century, it evolved into a more family-friendly event, characterized by activities like trick-or-treating, costume parties, and spooky decorations.

As the holiday gained popularity, it became an occasion for fun rather than fear. The spooky tales and ghost stories that accompanied Halloween became a way to entertain and engage, ensuring that the eerie spirit of the holiday remained intact.

A Spooky Story: The Phantom of Willow Creek

In the small town of Willow Creek, tales of a ghostly figure wandering the woods after dark have circulated for generations. Legend has it that the spirit belongs to a young woman named Eliza, who mysteriously disappeared on Halloween night over a century ago.

Eliza was known for her beauty and kindness, often helping those in need. On that fateful night, she was seen heading into the woods to gather firewood for the local orphanage. Hours passed, and she never returned. Search parties scoured the forest, but no trace of her was found. Locals believed she had encountered a witch who cursed her to roam the woods for eternity.

Every year on Halloween, the townsfolk would hear whispers in the wind and see a flickering light among the trees. Those brave enough to venture into the woods claimed to have seen Eliza’s ghost, dressed in a flowing white gown, her eyes filled with sorrow. Many who encountered her said they felt a chill, as if the very essence of winter had descended upon them.

To this day, on Halloween night, residents leave candles in their windows, hoping to guide Eliza’s spirit back home, even if just for one night.

A Legend more local to me: Goatman

The story of the Goatman in Cleburne, Texas, is a local legend that has intrigued and terrified residents for years. This urban legend typically describes a creature that is part human and part goat, often depicted with the body of a man and the head of a goat, and is said to roam the woods near Cleburne.

The Legend

According to various accounts, the Goatman is said to have originated from a tragic incident involving a goat farmer. Some versions claim he was a hermit who lived in the woods, known for his affinity with goats. After a series of unfortunate events—like the loss of his livestock or a betrayal by the townspeople—he transformed into the Goatman, seeking vengeance on those who wronged him.

Sightings of the Goatman often describe a hulking figure moving through the shadows, with glowing eyes and a haunting presence. Reports frequently mention eerie sounds, like screams or strange noises, echoing through the night, adding to the legend’s chilling atmosphere.

The Location

Cleburne’s woods and surrounding areas, especially near Lake Pat Cleburne, are often cited as hotspots for sightings. Locals claim that the Goatman is more active during full moons, and tales of encounters have circulated at campfires and local gatherings for generations.

Community Impact

The Goatman legend has had a unique impact on the Cleburne community. It has inspired local lore, ghost tours, and even Halloween events. Residents often share their own experiences or the stories passed down from older generations, ensuring that the tale continues to be a topic of conversation.

While the Goatman may be a figure of local folklore, it serves as a reminder of the rich tapestry of stories that can be found in small towns, blending history, tragedy, and the supernatural.

More Spooky Stories to Explore

If you’re in the mood for some spine-tingling tales this Halloween, check out these YouTube stories:

  1. The Legend of Sleepy Hollow – Watch Here
  2. The Haunting of Hill House – Watch Here
  3. Bloody Mary: The True Story – Watch Here
  4. The Bell Witch – Watch Here
  5. The Witch of Wall Street – Watch Here

These stories are sure to get you in the Halloween spirit! Whether you’re sharing them around a bonfire or listening to them alone in the dark, they capture the eerie essence of this beloved holiday.

My own family has always enjoyed celebrating my mom’s birthday along with the Halloween tradition of Trick-or-treating. The years since her passing have been different but we still gather together and the oldest kids take the younger kids trick-or-treating. This year the youngest kids are 15 and 16 years old and I still support them trick-or-treating as opposed to the things teens did back in the 80s and 90s. I know they will enjoy the candy and we will all share a meal and memories and laugh and take photographs. It will be different from the past but we come together because we are family. 

Whatever you choose to do for this holiday, make sure to make time for what it was created for: community and fun!! We need more laughter in the world and who doesn’t enjoy a little bit of trick or treat fun?? Parents make sure to get your candy tax!! Embrace the changes because they seemingly never stop, if the trees can do it, we can too!!

Happy Halloween!! Happy Birthday in heaven Mom!!!

Budget friendly meals

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Easy Recipes and Smart Shopping Tips

Eating healthy doesn’t have to break the bank! With a little planning and some easy recipes, you can enjoy nutritious meals without overspending. Here are three dinner recipes, three lunch ideas, and three breakfast-to-go options, along with tips on budgeting and shopping smartly. You do not have to overhaul your entre menu just add these to a standard rotation for some variety and check back later for more kid friendly foods that are good for you and your pocketbook!!

Dinner Recipes

  1. One-Pot Veggie Stir-Fry
    • Ingredients:
      • 2 cups mixed vegetables (frozen or fresh)
      • 1 cup cooked rice or pasta
      • 2 tablespoons soy sauce
      • 1 tablespoon olive oil
      • Optional: tofu or chicken for added protein
    • Instructions:
      1. Heat oil in a large skillet over medium heat.
      2. Add tofu or chicken if desired, and cook until protein is done.
      3. Add vegetables and sauté for 5-7 minutes.
      4. Stir in cooked rice or pasta and soy sauce; cook until heated through.

  1. Chicken and Vegetable Bake
    • Ingredients:
      • 4 chicken thighs (bone-in or boneless)
      • 2 cups mixed vegetables (like carrots, potatoes, and broccoli)
      • 2 tablespoons olive oil
      • Salt, pepper, and herbs (like thyme or rosemary) to taste
    • Instructions:
      1. Preheat the oven to 400°F (200°C).
      2. In a baking dish, toss chicken and vegetables with olive oil, salt, pepper, and herbs.
      3. Bake for about 30-40 minutes or until chicken is cooked through and veggies are tender.

  1. Baked Potato Bar
    • Ingredients:
      • 4 medium potatoes
      • Toppings: Greek yogurt, shredded cheese, chopped green onions, canned beans, steamed broccoli
    • Instructions:
      1. Preheat the oven to 400°F (200°C).
      2. Bake potatoes for about 45 minutes or until tender.
      3. Serve with a variety of toppings for a customizable meal.

Lunch Ideas

  1. Pasta Salad
    • Ingredients:
      • 2 cups cooked pasta (like rotini or penne)
      • 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved
      • 1/2 cup diced cucumber
      • 1/4 cup Italian dressing
      • Optional: diced cheese or olives
    • Instructions:
      1. Toss all ingredients in a bowl and chill before serving.

  1. Hummus and Veggie Wrap
    • Ingredients:
      • Whole wheat wrap
      • 1/2 cup hummus
      • Assorted veggies (carrots, bell peppers, spinach)
    • Instructions:
      1. Spread hummus on the wrap, layer with veggies, roll up, and slice.

  1. Lentil Soup
    • Ingredients:
      • 1 cup lentils
      • 1 onion, diced
      • 2 carrots, diced
      • 4 cups vegetable broth
      • 1 teaspoon cumin
    • Instructions:
      1. In a pot, sauté onion and carrots until soft.
      2. Add lentils, broth, and cumin; bring to a boil.
      3. Simmer for 30 minutes until lentils are tender.

Breakfast-to-Go Recipes

  1. Overnight Oats
    • Ingredients:
      • 1/2 cup rolled oats
      • 1 cup milk (dairy or plant-based)
      • 1 tablespoon chia seeds
      • Toppings: fruits, nuts, or honey
    • Instructions:
      1. Combine oats, milk, and chia seeds in a jar.
      2. Refrigerate overnight; add toppings before eating.

  1. Banana Pancake Bites
    • Ingredients:
      • 1 ripe banana
      • 2 eggs
      • 1/4 cup oats
    • Instructions:
      1. Mash banana and mix with eggs and oats.
      2. Cook small pancakes in a skillet; store for an easy grab-and-go option.

  1. Smoothie Packs
    • Ingredients:
      • Assorted frozen fruits (berries, bananas, spinach)
      • 1 cup yogurt or milk
    • Instructions:
      1. Pre-pack bags with your choice of frozen fruits.
      2. Blend with yogurt or milk in the morning for a quick breakfast.

Budgeting and Shopping Tips

  1. Plan Your Meals: Create a weekly meal plan before grocery shopping. This helps you avoid impulse buys and ensures you buy only what you need.
  2. Make a Shopping List: Stick to a list to keep your focus and reduce unnecessary purchases.
  3. Buy in Bulk: Purchase staple items like rice, pasta, and oats in bulk. They’re usually cheaper and last longer. You can also buy larger packages of meat and break it up into smaller sizes and store in freezer bags.
  4. Shop Seasonal: Fruits and vegetables that are in season tend to be cheaper and fresher.
  5. Look for Sales and Coupons: Check store flyers for weekly sales, and use coupons when possible. Apps for grocery stores can help you keep track of discounts. Fall is a good time when you can stock your pantry with many staples for the kitchen go on sale because of holiday baking and cooking.
  6. Use Frozen Produce: Frozen fruits and veggies are often less expensive and last longer than fresh ones, making them a great choice for budget meals.

By incorporating these recipes and tips into your routine, you can enjoy delicious, healthy meals without straining your budget. Remember that food is our fuel for energy and brain foods are important! Happy cooking!

**Mom tip: If you have a picky eater, always suggest 2 bites of new foods, and keep doing it every time because our tastebuds change over time and kids will discover that they like things and surprise even themselves. Also works on grownups who claim to not like things, just give it 2 bites!!

G is for GRIEF

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Navigating the Personal Journey of Loss

Grief is a profound, often overwhelming experience that touches all of our lives at some point. It’s a deeply personal journey that can emerge from various types of loss—whether the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or even the loss of a dream or opportunity. Understanding grief as a lifelong process rather than a linear event can help us navigate its complexities with compassion for ourselves and others.

The Nature of Grief

Grief is not just an emotion; it encompasses a range of feelings, thoughts, and reactions. It can manifest as sadness, anger, confusion, guilt, and even relief. Each person experiences grief differently, influenced by their personality, life experiences, and the nature of the loss.

A Personal Journey

One of the most critical aspects of grief is its deeply personal nature. While there are common stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—each individual traverses these stages in their own way and at their own pace. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve; there’s only your way.

  • Cultural Influences: Cultural backgrounds can shape how we express grief. Some cultures openly mourn, while others may emphasize stoicism. Understanding these differences is vital in supporting those around us.
  • Support Systems: The presence or absence of a supportive network can significantly impact the grieving process. Friends, family, and even professionals can provide comfort, yet the way we choose to engage with that support is uniquely ours.

Grief as a Lifelong Process

Many people may expect grief to resolve after a certain period, but it often lingers, evolving over time. This understanding can be liberating; it acknowledges that grief doesn’t have a strict timeline and allows for ongoing healing.

  • Anniversaries and Milestones: Significant dates, like birthdays or anniversaries, can reignite feelings of grief. This resurgence is a natural part of the process and can remind us of the love we still hold for those we’ve lost.
  • Finding New Meanings: As time passes, the way we relate to our grief may change. We may find ways to honor our loved ones, celebrate their lives, and integrate their memory into our own.

The Greater the Grief, the Greater the Love

One of the most profound truths about grief is that it reflects the depth of our love. The pain we feel is a testament to the bonds we shared. This connection is what makes the journey of grief so significant and transformative.

  • Embracing Love: Rather than shying away from grief, embracing it can be a way to honor our relationships. Acknowledge the love that underlies the sorrow; it’s this love that shapes our memories and influences who we are.
  • Creating Legacy: Finding ways to celebrate the life of the person we’ve lost can help channel our grief into something meaningful. This could be through storytelling, creating art, or participating in activities they loved.

Coping with Grief

As we navigate the personal journey of grief, it’s essential to equip ourselves with tools for coping. Here are some strategies that may help:

  1. Allow Yourself to Feel: Give yourself permission to experience all emotions that arise without judgment. Grief is not something to “get over” but something to honor.
  2. Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Whether through friends, family, or support groups, connecting with others who understand can be immensely comforting.
  3. Express Yourself: Writing, art, and other forms of expression can provide an outlet for your feelings. Journaling about your experience can help you process your emotions.
  4. Practice Self-Care: Grieving can be exhausting. Prioritize self-care through rest, nutrition, and activities that bring you joy or solace.
  5. Consider Professional Help: If grief feels overwhelming, seeking the guidance of a therapist can provide valuable support and coping strategies.

That’s not all folks:

Grief is a complex and deeply personal journey that requires patience and compassion. It is a lifelong process, interwoven with love and memory. Acknowledging that the greater the grief, the greater the love can help us embrace our experiences, honor those we’ve lost, and ultimately find a way to carry their legacy forward in our lives. Remember, you are not alone in this journey; your path is uniquely yours, and it’s okay to take the time you need to heal.

The personal part:

Keeping all of the above in mind, I have become very familiar with grief. It is a personal companion and has been with me since I was 11 years old. My only living grandparent died, my Granny, she was just the best towards me. And she impacted my life in so many ways, from “not sweeping through the middle” to “I love you a bushel and a peck,” helping me count to 100, taking rides through the countryside and everything in between. This is not to discount the losses that followed. It just compounds the grief; I still miss them and all of my other loved ones who are no longer here with me. The grief can be heavy some days. In the beginning, the initial shock, it is kind of easy. Easy, in that no one expects much from you in the beginning. You have the sympathy of everyone around you for your loss, but then it fades. You have to continue to go to work, do laundry, grocery shop, and with each of these tasks you are still very aware that the world you knew has changed forever. But the world keeps spinning even while you are in the throes of grief, life goes on, work still has to be done, bills paid. The routine soothes you a little bit, trying to keep things “normal” while you process what it is that has this grip on you. 

The holidays are always the hardest after a loss. Whether it be a birthday, anniversary or the holiday season following Halloween, they can all be hard. You can honor your loved ones and keep the same traditions, it may feel hollow at first, but there will be new meaning in them. This year I am not only facing the holidays without my parents but without 2 members of my village that always helped to pull me back from the brink when things got rough. I didn’t expect to have to traverse life and grief in losing friends that had become family. Losing the sister from another mister, my daily check in text or call, Audra could make me absolutely crazy with some of her theories but at our hearts we both enjoyed food and flavors and cultures and we raised our babies together. We made last minute poodle skirts together. She helped me expand my horizons. We valued critical thinking and doing what’s best for ourselves even if others didn’t understand. She helped me to embrace who I am. Now our youngest babies are freshmen in high school and she isn’t here to navigate this part. Some days are better than others and I think of her adult children each day. I think of her husband, left behind with a teen boy to raise without his mom. I digress. These things are all part of my daily existence. 

But in learning to let go, it is especially poignant in the fall. In the fall, trees lose their leaves, as they continue to grow. They become a shell of themselves, but we know that in the spring they sprout new leaves. I am taking a lesson from the trees this year. I am going to let go of things, it is hard work, but it is important work. I am going to let go of the past. I am going to cherish memories of loved ones and prepare myself to move forward in this new existence. I will remember each of them in different ways and on different days, but in letting go of how I thought life would be, I am freeing myself of the immense weight that grief can bear down on me. I will keep old traditions that still serve me and maybe create new ones to celebrate this new chapter of life. I didn’t plan for this journey of grief; I don’t think you can. What you can do is appreciate the time that you have and make the minutes count.

Love and light y’all, it can get dark out there. 

The Weight of Worry

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Understanding the Challenges Our Children Face: A mom’s thoughts

Can we talk about the hard stuff? It’s not just the occasional worries that gnaw at us; it’s the deep, pervasive concerns that accompany the journey of parenting. As I reflect on my experiences, I can’t help but think about the realities that many parents face today. I know people who have struggled with addiction—individuals who have turned to pills and alcohol to cope with life’s pressures, whether stemming from joy or despair. I’ve witnessed young lives teetering on the edge, grappling with challenges so overwhelming that they felt as though they had no choice but to escape from this world.

Consider this: According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), nearly 70% of young adults aged 18-25 have reported using alcohol in the past month, with about 16% indicating binge drinking. Furthermore, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) found that in 2021, over 4.6 million young adults reported misusing prescription medications. These statistics remind us that our children, even when they seem resilient, are navigating a landscape fraught with peril.

As we watch our children transition from adolescence into adulthood, the reality hits hard: there comes a point when we can no longer protect them from every danger. They bear the scars of childhood scrapes and bumps, yet the fear of what lies ahead weighs heavily on our hearts.

As a mother, I often find myself plagued by doubts. Did I do enough to prepare them for the challenges of life? Will the world embrace them as they carve out their own paths? Have I equipped them with the tools to trust their instincts and steer clear of harmful situations? Will they have the courage to make sound choices, even when faced with peer pressure or societal expectations? These questions swirl in my mind, casting a shadow over the proud moments I should be savoring.

The American Psychological Association reports that around 30% of adolescents experience significant anxiety or stress related to social pressures and academic expectations. For those aged 18-25, the transition to adulthood is often riddled with anxiety about career prospects, financial independence, and relationships. As parents, we want to instill confidence and resilience, yet we must acknowledge that external factors can overwhelm even the most well-prepared young adults.

Moreover, mental health concerns are on the rise. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) states that approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experience mental illness in a given year. This means that our children, aged 14 to 30, are at a higher risk of facing issues such as depression and anxiety, which can lead to more severe consequences if not addressed.

It’s crucial to foster an open dialogue with our children, creating a safe space where they feel comfortable sharing their struggles. We need to remind them that it’s okay to seek help and that support is always available. As parents, we must strive to be the guiding light in their lives, offering them not just advice but also unconditional love and understanding.

In moments of self-doubt, I remind myself that while I may not be able to shield my children from every hardship, I can be their anchor. I can provide them with the strength to face life’s uncertainties, encouraging them to reach out when they need support. They must know they can always come to me, no matter what challenges they encounter.

Ultimately, the journey of parenting is filled with ups and downs, and while the worries may never fully dissipate, we can arm our children with the resilience to navigate the world on their own. By fostering open communication, teaching them the importance of mental health, and instilling values that promote healthy decision-making, we can help them forge paths that lead to fulfilling lives. Let’s embrace these conversations, even when they’re difficult, and commit to being present for our children as they grow into the remarkable individuals they are meant to be.

Unplugging for adventure:

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

A Family Trip to San Antonio

In our fast-paced world filled with constant notifications and digital distractions, it’s easy to forget the simple joys of being present. Recently, I took my own advice and unplugged for a family adventure in San Antonio, Texas. Our trip was a delightful blend of history, culture, and quality time together, reminding me how important it is to create memories away from screens.

Exploring Lackland Air Force Base

Our journey began at Lackland Air Force Base, the birthplace of Air Force training. Known for its historic significance and impressive facilities, Lackland is not just a training base; it’s a vibrant community that welcomes visitors. We were able to see all of the planes contained in The Airpark, but unfortunately didn’t arrive in time to enjoy the Airman museum.Watching their eyes light up as they learned about the planes and the brave men and women who serve in the military was truly priceless. My son and husband were both all smiles despite the warmth of a 92 degree day and so much walking around. There were walking paths and picnic tables. It was truly a great experience for all of us.

The base itself is steeped in history, with roots tracing back to World War II. It’s fascinating to see how the Air Force has evolved over the decades, and being able to view the aircraft firsthand was an educational experience for all of us. The shared story placards of the enlisted that accompany certain planes was very touching and lets you into a window of time. 

A Visit to The Alamo

No trip to San Antonio would be complete without visiting The Alamo, a symbol of Texas pride and resilience. This historic site, where the Battle of the Alamo took place in 1836, is steeped in tales of bravery and sacrifice. Walking through the grounds, we could almost hear the echoes of history as we explored the chapel, sacristy, and the surrounding gardens.

The Alamo offers an engaging experience for visitors of all ages, with informative displays and guided tours that delve into the significance of the battle and its impact on Texas independence. My family was fascinated by the stories of the heroes who fought there, and it provided a perfect opportunity for discussions about courage and perseverance. The artwork that once stood boldly on the walls of the sacristy was beautiful. Although the frescoes are hard to see, I was happy that the tour pointed out the faint markings and has a display of what they might look like.

As we wandered through the site, we took in the beautiful architecture and the sense of calm that enveloped the area. It was a refreshing contrast to our usual hustle and bustle, allowing us to appreciate the moment and each other’s company.

The Joy of Unplugging

Throughout our trip, we made a conscious effort to unplug, but we did use our devices to play some fun and silly road trip songs. So, instead of scrolling through our phones, watching TikToks or other social media, we focused on our surroundings, singing along to the music playing in the background of our car as we drove. We laughed so much, sang along to our favorite songs, and shared stories, strengthening our family bond in a way that digital interactions simply can’t replicate. Walking around San Antonio, we covered a lot of ground, and the physical activity helped us stay energized and engaged. We were present in each moment, soaking in the sights and sounds of this vibrant city.

Getting Ready for Amazon Prime Big Deal Days

As we returned home, I couldn’t help but think about the upcoming holiday season. With Amazon Prime Big Deal Days just around the corner on October 8th and 9th, it’s time to gear up for some holiday shopping. The joy of giving gifts to loved ones—especially those who seem to have everything—can sometimes feel daunting. However, after our unplugged adventure, I felt inspired to find thoughtful gifts that create experiences rather than just adding to a pile of possessions.

The key is to focus on what brings joy and connection. Whether it’s a family game night, a cooking class, or a personalized photo book from our trip, I want to find gifts that remind us of our shared experiences and the memories we create together.

To “wrap” it up:

Our family trip to San Antonio was a beautiful reminder of the importance of unplugging and being present. Exploring Lackland AFB and The Alamo, we not only learned about history but also strengthened our family bonds. As we head into the holiday season, I’m excited to carry this spirit of connection forward, finding ways to make memories with those we love.

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by the digital noise, I encourage you to take a step back, unplug, and embark on your own adventure. You’ll find that the memories you create will last far longer than any screen time ever could. Happy travels!

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Don’t forget that life is what you make it!! Love and light y’all ❤