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Understanding Domestic Violence: More Than Just Leaving

by Mothersense, posted in Uncategorized

October: Domestic Violence Awareness Month — It’s Not as Simple as “Just Leave”

October is more than pumpkin spice and falling leaves — it’s also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. A time to shine a light on a shadow that exists in too many homes, behind too many closed doors, often in silence.

I have loved people who were involved in domestic violence situations. I have witnessed the pain, the confusion, the trauma — and the resilience. And I want to be very clear: It is never as simple as “just leave.”

We often hear that phrase from the outside looking in. It’s easy to believe that leaving an abusive partner should be a quick decision — that once the abuse is recognized, the path forward is obvious. But those of us who have walked alongside someone in that situation — or have lived it ourselves — know better.

Domestic violence isn’t always black eyes and bruises. It can be emotional manipulation, financial control, isolation, threats, gaslighting — or a combination of all these things. Abusers often wear masks to the world, and behind closed doors, they strip their partners of safety, confidence, and independence.

The truth is, leaving can be the most dangerous time. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), more than 70% of domestic violence-related murders happen after the victim has left or is in the process of leaving. That’s not just a statistic — that’s a heartbreaking reality.

The Complexity of Abuse

Here’s why “just leave” doesn’t cut it:

  • Emotional ties: Abusers often use manipulation and trauma bonding, making the victim question their own worth, memories, and even reality.
  • Financial dependence: Many survivors have no access to money, bank accounts, or employment. Financial abuse traps them in fear of homelessness or inability to care for children.
  • Fear: Of retaliation. Of the unknown. Of the legal system. Of being believed.
  • Children: Survivors worry about custody battles, safety of their kids, or the trauma of uprooting their lives.

The cycle of abuse is real. It’s not linear. Survivors might leave and return multiple times before finding a way out for good. That doesn’t mean they’re weak — it means they’re surviving the best they can in an incredibly complex and dangerous situation.

What You Can Do

You don’t have to have all the answers to help someone. You don’t need a magic solution. Sometimes, just being there is the most powerful act of love.

  • Listen without judgment. Let them speak. Let them cry. Let them not talk about it if they’re not ready.
  • Let them know you’re a safe place. Say: “I believe you. You don’t deserve this. You’re not alone.”
  • Don’t pressure them to leave. Instead, help them build a plan when they’re ready. Offer resources. Offer your presence.
  • Be patient. Healing and action take time.

If You or Someone You Know Needs Help

There are organizations ready to support survivors — with safety planning, emergency shelter, legal help, therapy, and more.

📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Or text “START” to 88788
http://www.thehotline.org

Available 24/7. Confidential. Free.

🟣 Love is Respect (for young people/teens)

Text “LOVEIS” to 22522
http://www.loveisrespect.org

A Few More Statistics to Remember

  • 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner.
  • On a typical day, more than 20,000 phone calls are placed to domestic violence hotlines across the U.S.
  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women — more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

To anyone who is in a violent or emotionally abusive relationship:
You are not alone. You are worthy of safety. You are not crazy. You are not weak. You are loved.
You may not be ready yet — and that’s okay. When you are, we will be here.

To the rest of us: Be the safe place. Be the soft landing. Be the friend who listens and believes — without pushing, without judgment.

Because love isn’t supposed to hurt.
Because silence doesn’t heal.
Because awareness leads to action.

Love and Light, People. 💜

Surviving Overwhelm: Mental Health Tips for Today

by Mothersense, posted in Uncategorized

Coping With Mental Health in Trying Times: Surviving the Storm When Everything Feels Overwhelming

There are moments in life when it feels like the weight of the world is pressing down on you. The kind of moments where everything seems to be stacking up—the bills are piling high, school is back in session, and the news feels like a relentless wave of tragedy. The pressure builds, leaving you running on fumes, emotionally drained, and unsure of how much more you can take.

Right now, many of us are living through a perfect storm of challenges. The reality of rising costs, personal responsibilities, and the heavy weight of constant bad news can leave you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and even numb. If you feel like you’re just taking it day by day, doing your best to survive, you’re not alone. And while these times are undeniably difficult, there are ways to cope, find balance, and regain a sense of peace. Here are some strategies to help you navigate the mental strain of living through these trying times in America.

1. Acknowledge the Reality of What You’re Feeling

One of the hardest parts of mental strain is the guilt that often comes with it. We’ve been conditioned to push through, to “keep going” no matter what. But it’s okay to not be okay. When life is overwhelming, acknowledging your feelings is the first step toward healing. Whether you’re angry, scared, numb, or sad, allow yourself the space to sit with those emotions without judgment. You don’t have to be “better” or “stronger” every single moment.

When you name your emotions, you take the first step toward regaining control. Feeling overwhelmed is a natural response to these challenging times, but it doesn’t define you. By validating your emotions, you allow yourself permission to cope, heal, and move forward.

2. Practice Radical Self-Care (Yes, It’s Important!)

Self-care has become a buzzword in recent years, but it’s not just about face masks and bubble baths—it’s about setting boundaries and prioritizing your mental and physical health. In times of stress, it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself, but the reality is that without a solid foundation, it’s harder to weather the storms of life.

Start with small, achievable acts of self-care that nourish your body and mind. This could mean:

  • Sleep: Rest is non-negotiable. When you’re running on empty, a solid night’s sleep is essential for emotional and mental recovery.
  • Nutrition: Eat nourishing foods that give your body the energy it needs to tackle the day, even if it’s just a balanced snack.
  • Movement: Whether it’s a walk, yoga, or a dance party in your living room, moving your body can release stress and elevate your mood.
  • Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness or meditation, even if it’s just five minutes of deep breathing. The present moment is all we have, and grounding yourself can offer some much-needed relief.

3. Limit Your Media Consumption

It can feel like the world is burning down when you’re constantly glued to the news. From national tragedies to political chaos, the media can feel overwhelming and relentless. While staying informed is important, there’s a fine line between being aware and being consumed by it.

Consider setting boundaries on how much news you consume daily, and make time for things that uplift you. Try a digital detox—take a day off from social media, limit your news intake, and focus on things that bring you joy, whether that’s reading a book, spending time with loved ones, or enjoying nature.

4. Reevaluate Your Priorities

When life feels like it’s in constant crisis mode, it’s easy to get caught up in the demands of work, school, finances, and responsibilities. But sometimes, it’s important to step back and ask yourself: What’s really important right now?

  • Can you delegate some tasks to make life a little less overwhelming?
  • Are there things you can let go of, even temporarily, to give yourself space to breathe?
  • Do you have the energy to take on everything on your plate right now, or is it okay to ask for help?

Setting boundaries around your time and energy is not only okay—it’s necessary. Whether it’s saying “no” to an extra project at work or asking a friend or family member for help with errands, reclaiming your personal time is essential for mental health.

5. Find Support in Your Community

You don’t have to go through tough times alone. Whether it’s a trusted friend, a support group, or a therapist, talking about your feelings can help you feel seen, heard, and less isolated. Sharing the burden with others, even if it’s just a text or a phone call, can make a world of difference.

If you’re not already, consider reaching out to a mental health professional. Therapists and counselors are trained to help you navigate difficult emotions and offer tools for coping. Therapy isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a way to strengthen your resilience and build healthy coping mechanisms for the future.

6. Focus on What You Can Control

In times of chaos, focusing on the things you can control helps to ground you. You may not be able to change the headlines or the world’s circumstances, but you can take control of how you respond.

Maybe that means focusing on your daily routine, budgeting your finances, or creating small, achievable goals. When things feel out of control, taking one step at a time toward something you can manage brings back a sense of agency.

7. Find Purpose in the Chaos

It’s easy to feel lost and overwhelmed when things are falling apart around you. But sometimes, finding a sense of purpose can bring clarity. This might mean reconnecting with your passions, getting involved in your community, or finding new ways to help others.

When we’re able to focus on something larger than ourselves, it can put the stresses of life into perspective. Helping others or contributing to a cause can also bring a sense of fulfillment and connection that’s hard to find in times of isolation.

8. Remember, You’re Not Alone

Living in America right now can feel uniquely stressful—whether it’s economic struggles, political tensions, or social upheaval, the strain can feel heavy. But in these moments, remember: You are not alone. Millions of people are navigating these same challenges, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. It’s okay to lean on others, to ask for help, and to give yourself the grace you need to heal.

In these tough times, survival might look different for each of us. It might mean focusing on day-to-day coping strategies, seeking therapy, or simply taking a break from the news. Whatever your journey looks like, remember that it’s okay to not have all the answers, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time.

Conclusion: Keep Going, One Day at a Time

The light at the end of the tunnel may seem dim right now, but it is there, even if it’s hard to see. Each day you keep going is a victory. You’re doing your best, and that’s all you can do. Be kind to yourself. Take small steps to care for your mental health, and remember that it’s okay to seek support. In trying times, surviving isn’t just about enduring—it’s about finding ways to thrive, no matter how small those steps may seem.

If you’re struggling, know that there is help, and there is hope. Keep pushing forward, and know that brighter days are ahead.

love and light y’all!!!

The ABCs of Mental Health: Small Changes for Big Impact

by Mothersense, posted in Uncategorized

Focusing on What We Can Control

Life can feel overwhelming at times, especially when we face challenges that are outside of our control. Worrying about the “what ifs” can keep us stuck, anxious, and drained. But when it comes to our mental health, one of the most powerful lessons we can learn is this:

Peace of mind comes when we focus on what we can control and let go of what we cannot.

The ABCs of mental health remind us that there are practical areas of our lives we can manage—daily choices that influence how we feel, how we cope, and how we show up for ourselves and others.

Let’s walk through some of the most important ones:

A – Awareness of What We Consume

We may not be able to control every thought that crosses our mind or every stressor that shows up in our day, but we can control what we allow into our bodies and minds.

  • Food: What we eat impacts not just our physical health but also our mental clarity and mood. A balanced diet rich in whole foods, water, fruits, and vegetables helps stabilize energy and emotions.
  • Media: What we consume online matters. Too much negative news or endless scrolling can fuel anxiety. Setting boundaries around social media and media consumption is a healthy choice we do control.

Being intentional with consumption—whether food, information, or energy—gives us strength and clarity.

B – Balance in Finances

Money is one of the leading causes of stress for individuals and families. While we cannot always control unexpected expenses or the economy, we can control how we spend, save, and plan.

  • Create a budget that supports your goals instead of drains your paycheck.
  • Choose mindful spending habits—distinguish between needs and wants.
  • Build an emergency fund, even if it’s just a small step at a time.

Financial peace doesn’t come from being wealthy—it comes from being intentional with the resources we already have.

C – Care Through Movement

Our bodies are designed to move. Exercise isn’t just about physical appearance; it is one of the most powerful tools we have for boosting mental health.

  • A brisk walk can clear your mind.
  • Stretching can release tension from stress.
  • Strength training or yoga can rebuild confidence and resilience.

We may not control every health diagnosis or physical limitation, but we can choose to move our bodies in ways that nourish us.

D – Deep Rest and Sleep

Sleep is often overlooked, yet it is vital for mental health. Yes, sometimes our minds race and rest feels hard to come by, but we can take steps to create a healthier sleep environment.

  • Stick to a regular sleep schedule.
  • Limit screens before bedtime.
  • Create a calming routine with reading, prayer, or meditation.
  • Keep your room cool, dark, and quiet.

We may not always control when sleep comes easily, but we can build habits that make rest more likely.

Letting Go Brings Freedom

When we shift our energy toward what we can influence, we take back power that stress and anxiety try to steal. The truth is:

  • We can’t control every circumstance.
  • We can’t control the choices of others.
  • We can’t control the unexpected.

But we can control how we respond, what we prioritize, and the daily actions that nurture our body, mind, and spirit.

And when we let go of what we cannot control, we make room for peace of mind, resilience, and growth.

✅ Your challenge this week: Pick just one area—food, finances, exercise, or sleep—and make a small but intentional change. Remember, it’s not about perfection. It’s about progress, awareness, and focusing on the ABCs of what truly matters.

Suicide Prevention Month: Honoring Lives and Spreading Hope

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Honoring Carla, Hunter, and Holding on to Hope

September is Suicide Prevention Month, a time to shine light into the shadows and remind one another that every life matters. For me, this month is personal. Too personal.

Just this May, my friend Carla made the choice to leave this world. She had only just become a grandmother, a role I know would have filled her with joy. Carla’s smile beamed, her laugh was unforgettable, and she adored her children—kids the same ages as three of mine. To learn that she had taken her own life stopped me in my tracks.

My first thought was: My God, the pain must have been so immense for her to leave behind her beautiful little family. Whatever she was carrying must have hurt so deeply that leaving felt like her only escape. That thought still breaks me.

And Carla’s loss is not the only one close to my heart. Earlier this year, my family also said goodbye to Hunter, who lost his battle with his own thoughts. Two lives gone too soon. Two families left to navigate unimaginable grief.

Suicide prevention is not just a cause on a calendar for me—it is a daily prayer, a constant thought. I carry it not only for Carla and for Hunter, but also for my own child who has struggled. When you’ve looked into the eyes of someone you love and wondered if they’ll still be here tomorrow, suicide prevention becomes your heartbeat.

That’s why checking in on people matters so much. Sometimes we assume that because someone is smiling, laughing, or surrounded by loved ones, they must be okay. Carla looked like she had so much to live for. Hunter had so much life ahead of him. And yet, their battles were invisible to most of us. A simple text, a phone call, a coffee together—it might not “fix” everything, but it could remind someone they are not alone in their darkness.

I also hope for families left behind that practical things—like having a will, leaving clear instructions, or having life insurance in place—can ease some of the burden. Not because it takes away the grief, but because it provides breathing room in the middle of heartbreak.

But more than anything, I hope we all keep talking, keep listening, and keep showing up for one another. Because silence can be deadly, but compassion can save lives.

If you are struggling—or if someone you love is—please know this: there is help, and there is hope.

  • Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial 988 in the U.S.
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor, available 24/7.
  • Veterans Crisis Line: Dial 988, then press 1.

For Carla, I pray she has found peace. For Hunter, I pray he knows how deeply he is loved. For my child—and for every person fighting silent battles—I pray you remember that your story is not over yet.

Because your smile, your laugh, your love—you matter. Always. ❤ Julie

Breaking Free from Your Comfort Zone

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Where Growth Begins
We all love our comfort zones. They’re warm, familiar, and safe — a space where
routines rule, risks are low, and uncertainty is kept at bay. It’s where we feel in control.
But while this space might feel cozy, it can also become a quiet trap, keeping us stuck in
sameness and stalling our potential.
Growth, learning, and transformation don’t happen in the comfort zone. They begin the
moment we stretch beyond it — when we test our limits, explore the unfamiliar, and
challenge our own self-imposed boundaries.

The Power of the Stretch
Stretching beyond the comfort zone doesn’t mean making reckless decisions or chasing
extremes. It means trying something new, stepping into the unknown even if your voice
shakes, and accepting that discomfort is part of the journey.
Maybe it’s launching that business idea you’ve been sitting on. Or finally signing up for
that fitness class. Maybe it’s starting a creative project, speaking in public, or even just
introducing yourself to someone new. Each step outside the comfort zone is a vote of
confidence in yourself.
The truth is, you can’t grow without a little stretch. That’s how muscles develop, skills
sharpen, and people evolve.

Rethinking Failure: A Learning Opportunity
One of the biggest reasons we cling to the comfort zone is fear — especially the fear of
failure. But what if we started seeing failure for what it really is: a First Attempt In
Learning?

Failure is not a dead-end. It’s feedback. It teaches resilience, refines strategies, and
builds wisdom. Every successful person has failed — not once, but often. The
difference is, they didn’t stop there. They saw failure not as a reflection of their worth,
but as a stepping stone to growth.
Let’s drop the perfectionism. We are often our own harshest critics, expecting ourselves
to get everything right the first time. But perfection is a myth — progress is real. Give
yourself permission to be a beginner. To stumble. To grow messy and real, instead of
polished and safe.

Investing in Yourself Is the Boldest Move You Can Make
Whether you’re dreaming of building a business, learning a new hobby, improving your
health, or expanding your social circle — the first step is the scariest. But it’s also the
most empowering.
Taking a leap of faith isn’t about having zero fear — it’s about moving forward despite
the fear. It’s telling yourself, “I may not have all the answers yet, but I believe I’m worth
the effort.”

A Challenge for You
Today, take one small step outside your comfort zone. It doesn’t have to be dramatic.
Maybe it’s sharing your work online, reaching out to someone you admire, or signing up
for a class. Whatever it is, let it be a declaration: I am willing to grow.
You don’t need to be fearless. You just need to be brave enough to begin.

Remember: Your comfort zone may feel safe, but your potential lives outside of it. Take
the leap. Stretch. Fail. Learn. And most importantly, believe in yourself enough to try.