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Chronic Pain is a Mother…

by Mothersense, posted in Kids n such, Messy Life

Exploring Chronic Pain

Chronic pain is a complex and often debilitating condition affecting millions of people worldwide. It can stem from a variety of causes, including injury, illness, or underlying medical conditions such as arthritis, fibromyalgia, neuropathy, and migraines. While narcotic pain relievers can provide temporary relief, they are not always a sustainable or desirable long-term solution. Many individuals seek alternative treatments to manage their pain more effectively and improve their quality of life. 

If you have read my much older blogs you may know that my ex husband suffered from chronic pain with no known cause. Still to this day I suppose he continues to suffer, but this was my first foray into chronic pain. My second was for myself, last year I suffered a head injury which led to a concussion and post concussion syndrome. Now I live with migraines to which the likes I had never before experienced. Thanks to modern medicine, I can now take a prescription to keep my migraine days down to maybe once a month. The sad part is that it took almost a year of tests and numerous visits with a primary care doctor and neurologist. Many of you may not have the privilege of seeking such medical care and even if you can you may not know what other things might help and what questions to ask the doctors for relief. 

Understanding Chronic Pain Conditions

Chronic pain can manifest in numerous ways, including:

 **Arthritis**: Inflammation in the joints causing stiffness and pain.

 **Fibromyalgia**: Widespread pain, fatigue, and cognitive difficulties.

 **Neuropathic Pain**: Nerve damage leading to shooting or burning pain.

 **Migraines**: Severe headaches often accompanied by nausea and sensitivity to light.

Recognizing the specific type of pain is crucial for effective management, as each condition may respond differently to treatment approaches. Healthcare providers try to stay away from prescribing narcotic medications not only because of addiction but because without realizing it, your body can become dependent. I use the words addiction and dependency to describe different conditions. For me addiction is more of  psychological need accompanied with a physical need to take the medication and dependency is when your body will absolutely go haywire if you choose to stop taking it. Withdrawal in either case is really far more unpleasant and can be harmful for the chronic pain sufferer. This is why I encourage talking to your doctor about medications, supplements and other treatments to come up with a unique treatment plan for your particular pain.

Alternative Treatments for Chronic Pain

1. **Nutritional Supplements**: Certain supplements can help alleviate pain and reduce inflammation:

   – **Omega-3 Fatty Acids**: Found in fish oil, these can help decrease inflammation and improve joint health. You can use supplements or add more fish in your diet, but be sure to read the labels. 

   – **Turmeric**: Contains curcumin, which has anti-inflammatory properties. My nephew uses this for his aches and pains as an installation technician. He is 39 now and his body isn’t moving along so well with all of the repetitive use. 

   – **Magnesium**: May reduce muscle tension and help with nerve pain. I use a magnesium spray that I bought locally. You can also find it on Amazon. 

   – **Glucosamine and Chondroitin**: Often used for joint pain and osteoarthritis. My Dad swore by this combo in helping with his knee pain. 

2. **Mind-Body Techniques**: Practices such as meditation, yoga, and tai chi can promote relaxation and help manage pain through mindfulness and gentle movement. Movement as I have said in previous posts is lubrication, do what you can. Some days will be better than others as always and don’t over-do it, but always try to get a few minutes in daily. 

3. **Physical Therapy**: Tailored exercises can strengthen muscles, improve flexibility, and reduce pain over time. A physical therapist can design a program that aligns with an individual’s specific needs. 

4. **Acupuncture**: This traditional Chinese medicine practice involves inserting needles into specific points to relieve pain and promote healing.

5. **Massage Therapy**: Therapeutic massage can alleviate muscle tension and improve circulation, providing relief for many chronic pain sufferers.

6. **Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)**: This psychological approach helps individuals change their perception of pain and develop coping strategies to manage it effectively.

Activities to Consider

Engaging in gentle physical activities can be beneficial. While it may seem counterintuitive to move when in pain, low-impact exercises like swimming, walking, or cycling can boost endorphin levels, which are natural pain relievers. Additionally, hobbies that promote relaxation, such as painting or gardening, can provide a mental escape and reduce stress.

The Role of Sleep in Pain Management

For many chronic pain sufferers, sleep is often the only respite from their discomfort. However, pain can significantly disrupt sleep patterns, leading to a vicious cycle of fatigue and heightened pain sensitivity. Establishing a calming bedtime routine, creating a comfortable sleep environment, and considering sleep aids—whether natural (like melatonin) or through behavioral adjustments—can help improve sleep quality.

Coping Without Narcotics

While narcotics can be effective for some, they come with risks of dependency and side effects that can be just as debilitating as the pain. Here are strategies to cope without relying solely on narcotics:

 **Stay Informed**: Understand your condition and treatment options. Knowledge empowers you to make informed choices about your care. If you think something might help, bring it up with your healthcare provider. 

 **Support Networks**: Connect with others who understand chronic pain. Support groups, whether in-person or online, can offer encouragement and shared experiences. Facebook, Discord, and What’s app, Reddit do have group options where you can find others who are facing your struggles. 

 **Integrate Therapies**: Many alternative treatments can work in conjunction with prescribed medications. Always consult your healthcare provider before adding new therapies to your routine. When you are transparent with your provider about your pain and that you are willing to explore options besides prescription medication you may get better results from them. I know my neurologist placed a sign in his lobby that he does not prescribe narcotics at all. I suppose that keeps any pill seekers from his office, but he is clear about it up front. The medical community is beginning to embrace holistic medicine and hopefully more providers will look to treat a whole person and not just a set of symptoms . 

Wrapping it up for you: 

Living with chronic pain can be challenging, but exploring alternative treatments and making lifestyle adjustments can lead to significant improvements in quality of life. A comprehensive approach that includes nutritional supplements, physical activities, and mind-body techniques can help alleviate pain and enhance overall well-being. Remember, it’s essential to consult with a healthcare professional before making any changes to your treatment plan. Each person’s experience with pain is unique, and finding the right combination of strategies can lead to a more manageable and fulfilling life. I hope this information gives you a starting point in finding more pain free days. 

Oh Those teen boys…

by Mothersense, posted in Kids n such

NAVIGATING THE CHALLENGES OF PARENTING A TEEN BOY

Parenting a teenage boy can be a rollercoaster ride filled with highs and lows. As they transition from childhood to adulthood, boys face unique challenges that can impact their mental health. It’s crucial for parents to be aware of these issues and to engage in open conversations about feelings, pressures, and the digital world.

The Challenges of Parenting a Teen Boy

One moment, you might find your son excitedly sharing his dreams for the future, and the next, he could be engulfed in stress from school, friendships, and societal expectations. Teenage boys often struggle with expressing their emotions, which can lead to misunderstandings and feelings of isolation. Unfortunately, he is and isn’t the same sweet boy who wouldn’t leave the room without a hug and an “I love you.” He is that sweet little boy that you have loved and nurtured, but he isn’t because he is changing, his body is foreign to him in some ways. He doesn’t even know sometimes why he does or says things. We can chalk it up to part of growing up and make ourselves aware that parenting teen boys isn’t easy, but keeping a few things in mind we can bring forth kind, loving, and healthy young men. 

Mental Health Statistics: A Silent Crisis

While discussions around mental health have become more mainstream, there are still aspects that remain underexplored. For instance, statistics show that suicide is the second leading cause of death among boys aged 15 to 19. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), in 2021, nearly 12% of high school boys reported seriously considering suicide, with around 5% having attempted it.

Furthermore, self-harm is alarmingly prevalent among teenage boys. A 2020 study found that approximately 7% of boys had engaged in self-injurious behavior. These statistics reveal a hidden crisis that isn’t often addressed openly, especially in conversations about teenage mental health.

The Impact of Bullying

Bullying can exacerbate mental health issues among teens. The National Center for Educational Statistics (NCES) reports that about 20% of students aged 12-18 experienced bullying. Boys are often targeted for their interests, appearance, or perceived weaknesses, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy and despair. Sometimes it is even within their own friend group and the boys themselves don’t even realize the harm they are causing. I don’t think any teen boy wants to see his friend in despair. 

Breaking the Silence

Despite the alarming statistics, many parents feel unprepared to discuss mental health, bullying, or the pressures their sons face. The stigma surrounding mental health often keeps families from seeking help or initiating conversations. It’s essential to break this silence, normalize discussions about emotions, and encourage boys to express their feelings without judgment. That last part is hard because many of us have been around or seen the whole alpha/beta male nonsense and hear “boys will be boys” crap that essentially excuses the crappy behavior, we cannot let that continue. Real men do cry, real men do wear pink, and real men do many things that may have once been looked at as “woman’s work.”

The Role of the Internet

In today’s digital age, the internet plays a significant role in the lives of teenagers. While it can be a source of information and connection, it also poses risks. Cyberbullying, exposure to inappropriate content, and the pressure to maintain a perfect online persona can take a toll on a teen’s mental health. Even if you cannot keep up with the ever changing digital landscape that your child is involved in, do not keep your head in the sand. Research the apps your teen is using and familiarize yourself with it enough that you can be prepared should you need to intervene.

Preparing Your Teen for the Digital World

As parents, preparing our children for the digital landscape is crucial. Here are some strategies to consider:

  1. Open Dialogue: Foster an environment where your teen feels comfortable discussing their online experiences. Ask about their favorite apps, what they enjoy, and any negative experiences they might encounter. Snapchat has had a n uptick in scammers convincing kids to send photos and then trying to blackmail them for money. Discord has its dark places as does Twitch. Be mindful of what your family is consuming. 
  2. Educate About Cyberbullying: Discuss the realities of cyberbullying and the importance of kindness online. Encourage them to speak to you or another trusted adult if they witness or experience bullying. 
  3. Set Boundaries: Establish rules for internet use that promote balance, such as time limits and appropriate content guidelines. Make sure your teen knows that just like there are terrible places in the world that they might want to avoid, there are places on the internet that should be avoided. 
  4. Model Healthy Behavior: Demonstrate positive online behavior by managing your own digital presence and discussing your experiences.
  5. Teach Critical Thinking: Help your teen develop critical thinking skills regarding online content. Encourage them to question the accuracy of information and the motives behind social media posts.
  6. Mental Health Resources: Provide information about mental health resources and support systems. Make it clear that seeking help is a strength, not a weakness.

Wrapping things up for you:

Parenting a teen boy is both rewarding and challenging. By acknowledging the complexities of their mental health and the impact of the digital world, we can foster a supportive environment. Open communication and education are key in helping our boys navigate these tumultuous years. Let’s break the silence around mental health, combat bullying, and prepare our children for a healthier relationship with themselves and the digital world. In doing so, we create a foundation of trust and resilience that can guide them through adolescence and beyond.

I smell fall y’all!!

by Mothersense, posted in Kids n such, Messy Life

Oh so much goes on behind the scenes here at Mothersense!! I have a new moniker to add to my collection “Jules the Mascara Mom.” It goes with my Younique experience and that comes into play with all of my other mothersense!! With the changing leaves of Fall so there are many things that change around our household!!
1)The Big Boy has left school and is now living with my parents across town. He has a job and is saving for a truck. He is also considering firefighter training or police academy!! He even paid his half of the cell bill this month!! WHOOP!! I am all about the baby steps!!
2) Big girl (not her birth mom, just her Jules) has moved off to her higher learning institution and is settling in well!! We hope she visits often because we sort of miss her and her spunk and green hair!
3)The other 4 rugrats have started back to their homeschool lessons. And co-op starts next week so we have to at least pretend that we have it all together! These guys are the ones that keep me on my toes! Fighting over computer time. Arguing about what all has to be written in the log book. Timing one another for their journal activities. Whew what a fun bunch! I am telling you the excitement about all of this school work is palatable. All kidding aside we have been very blessed to continue on the homeschooling journey and not have too many hiccups. The flexibility is really the best part because I can CUSTOMIZE their lessons to interest and engage them so that they want to learn!! Yay me, I call that WINNING!
4) My journey as an entrepreneur is still in full swing. I have always loved being my own boss and have made multiple attempts with Network Marketing and I really hope this time we can launch something I can have for years to come and my kids can be super dee duper proud to be associated! Younique is a company that makes amazing cosmetics. The Younique Foundation is on a mission to keep an open dialogue about sexual abuse of women and children! We gotta keep on keeping on!!
5) Hubby has seen his primary care doctor and his optometrist this week. Good news is that whatever is causing his pain and neuropathy is not affecting his eyesight. The bad news is that we still do not have answers as we are waiting on more MRIs and a consult with a neurologist. The primary care doc suspects MS and is treating for nerve pain and of course the degenerative disk disease, but we wait for now. And we pray and we do not give up hope. It is painful to watch my once vibrant husband reduced to such frailty that I have to help him off the toilet and up and out of chairs. He is only 37, it hard to watch, y’all!
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Spinning

by Mothersense, posted in Kids n such

I feel like things are spinning out of control. And as a mother at least some semblance of control is necessary to function in the day to day. My oldest is off to his trade school to work on an associate’s in diesel mechanics, seldom home. I was not prepared for that because he was such a momma’s boy for so long. I am grateful that he has come out of his shell and just cover him in prayer daily that he makes good choices. We have added a 17 year old to the mix last year (2013) and she is a fabulous kid who just needed a safe place to land for awhile until she has time to spread her wings as well. (*sigh* its so hard) And then the oldest daughter is finding her way in high school and flip flopping between “Mom fix this” and “Mom I’ve got this” all of that is enough to make some skiddish but not this faith driven, battle scarred mom. It does make me a tad dizzy as we walk a fine line with teens anyway, but these three, I just know they will manage to make a mark on the world, they have the heart for giving, and I love them for it. I certainly hope that they learn much sooner than I did to set boundaries before getting hurt too badly.

Flip down on the other end of my children and you have a 13 year old with all of her alphabet of difficulties who is doing marvelously well in a homeschool setting. This is her 8th grade year and she is doing a little bit of “feeling her oats” as the hormones have kicked in a tad and we are operating this year with NO MEDS, focusing our energies on coping strategies, breathing, manners, exercise and good nutrition (with some supplements). I finally managed to set her up for co-op classes. Its gotten off to a rough start but it is one day a week that she for sure gets to see friends and her classes are mainly science which she loves so she is doing well. Then we have the babygirl who declares herself the “normal one” just because she is my mini-me and that is so her personality!! She loves showing her FFA goats and is becoming quite opinionated but alas I know that inside that sweet little 10 year old girl there is a hormonal monster waiting to jump at me and be all emotional and I am just not ready yet. Finally we have the baby of all of my babies who has just turned 5, he is a little devil at times but mostly he is momma’s little sweetheart. He holds my hand, gives hugs freely, and lots of cuddles and kisses. And sadly those days will be gone much too quickly for my taste.

My world is spinning because I have 6 kids in my home and on bad days 7 because I sometimes include my husband as a kid too! (winky face – he knows) I love them all so much and fight so hard for them to have everything they need in the world and maybe spoil them just a tad too. And the holding pattern we may have been in for awhile, well it got smashed to pieces and now we are FULL SPEED AHEAD and really my babies are not babies anymore (BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS BE MY BABIES)..DISCLIAMER…I don’t have baby fever at all. I do not miss pregnancy or the middle of the night feedings, but dad gum I just wish that I had them for longer, its going by way too fast and soon I will be the grandma or grams or nana….I try not to think of that just yet because I just need to focus on NOW.Oh and the macaroni noodles I was boiling for lunch. Love and Light people – be good to YOU!!

Sugarplums and such

by Mothersense, posted in Kids n such

My husband and I finally got to do some Christmas shopping!! It has been a tough year financially however boy we sure have been blessed.  Despite Jarrett’s illness, and all of the hoopla we have had to go through, he made good grades this semester at college!  Lots of hard work and I believe my oldest has successfully completed his first semester of high school.  But back to sugarplums and shopping….

We go shopping and when I drop the kids off at my mothers my oldest daughter has secretly brought my ready-made gingerbread dough with her in the hopes that they can make cookies.  Well initially she is disappointed because my mother had given me her cookie cutters to use with the dough at my house, and I have the rolling pin as well….this did not stop my children.  As their mother and to prevent a fuss for my mother to have to deal with I tell them to get creative, use a butter knife, or a plastic knife to cut out the desired shapes.  Ok, so this does leave my mother in a bit of a pickle, but hey she’s had to deal with worse, she raised 5 kids.  So we get the kids settled at my parent’s house and go about our business.

We don’t know where to start.  We have five kids of our own and the money is kinda slim….but we are used to that so we start thinking of a blend between Santa and practical.  I won’t go into details but I think we did quite well and I don’t think the kids will be disappointed one bit.  Well maybe the oldest, because he thinks he HAS to have an ipod or he’s gonna die.  But I am on the fence about that because he has nooooo idea what is in store for him and NO it’s not an ipod, because Santa is on a budget, but it is hopefully gonna blow his socks off.  We did good, I am convinced of that.  I am also convinced that in the end, the kids appreciate the gifts but know the real reason we celebrate Christmas.