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Suicide Prevention Month: Honoring Lives and Spreading Hope

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Honoring Carla, Hunter, and Holding on to Hope

September is Suicide Prevention Month, a time to shine light into the shadows and remind one another that every life matters. For me, this month is personal. Too personal.

Just this May, my friend Carla made the choice to leave this world. She had only just become a grandmother, a role I know would have filled her with joy. Carla’s smile beamed, her laugh was unforgettable, and she adored her children—kids the same ages as three of mine. To learn that she had taken her own life stopped me in my tracks.

My first thought was: My God, the pain must have been so immense for her to leave behind her beautiful little family. Whatever she was carrying must have hurt so deeply that leaving felt like her only escape. That thought still breaks me.

And Carla’s loss is not the only one close to my heart. Earlier this year, my family also said goodbye to Hunter, who lost his battle with his own thoughts. Two lives gone too soon. Two families left to navigate unimaginable grief.

Suicide prevention is not just a cause on a calendar for me—it is a daily prayer, a constant thought. I carry it not only for Carla and for Hunter, but also for my own child who has struggled. When you’ve looked into the eyes of someone you love and wondered if they’ll still be here tomorrow, suicide prevention becomes your heartbeat.

That’s why checking in on people matters so much. Sometimes we assume that because someone is smiling, laughing, or surrounded by loved ones, they must be okay. Carla looked like she had so much to live for. Hunter had so much life ahead of him. And yet, their battles were invisible to most of us. A simple text, a phone call, a coffee together—it might not “fix” everything, but it could remind someone they are not alone in their darkness.

I also hope for families left behind that practical things—like having a will, leaving clear instructions, or having life insurance in place—can ease some of the burden. Not because it takes away the grief, but because it provides breathing room in the middle of heartbreak.

But more than anything, I hope we all keep talking, keep listening, and keep showing up for one another. Because silence can be deadly, but compassion can save lives.

If you are struggling—or if someone you love is—please know this: there is help, and there is hope.

  • Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial 988 in the U.S.
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor, available 24/7.
  • Veterans Crisis Line: Dial 988, then press 1.

For Carla, I pray she has found peace. For Hunter, I pray he knows how deeply he is loved. For my child—and for every person fighting silent battles—I pray you remember that your story is not over yet.

Because your smile, your laugh, your love—you matter. Always. ❤ Julie

The Unforeseen Losses That Make Us Pause:

by Mothersense, posted in Uncategorized

Honoring Hunter and Carla

Life has a way of jolting us awake when we least expect it. Today as I took my lunch out and opened Facebook, I received heartbreaking news: my dear friend Carla took her own life on Monday, May 12, 2025—the day after Mother’s Day, and only a few months into becoming a grandmother. Just a couple of months ago, my cousin Hunter also died by suicide. Both losses have left me reeling, grappling with sorrow and a profound sense of helplessness.

I cried for Carla, for Hunter, and for the immense pain they must have carried—pain that felt insurmountable, perhaps invisible to those around them. I cried for their families, their friends, and everyone who loved them. Suicide is complex, layered with emotions and circumstances that are often difficult to untangle.

Hunter had struggled, and I imagine he was in immense pain that he felt no one could understand nor help him with. I’m not sure. Suicide is complicated, and I have come to understand that as I have gotten older.

Carla, an incredible friend and beautiful soul, took her life on Monday the 12th, the day after Mother’s Day and only a few months into being a grandma. In both cases, I cried. I cried for the ones closest to them, and I cried knowing how much they both must have hurt to feel as though the only relief they could garner was to make a permanent decision to leave this Earth.

Hunter, Carla, I hope you have peace now that you did not find while you were here with us. You are missed, you will forever be loved, and I hope in talking about your death, all of us can help someone else—make it less of a strain to talk about the hard stuff, make it easier for someone to ask for help.

The Silent Epidemic: Understanding the Scope

Suicide remains a pressing public health issue in the United States. In 2023, over 49,000 people died by suicide—that’s one death every 11 minutes. Additionally, 12.8 million adults seriously thought about suicide, 3.7 million made a plan, and 1.5 million attempted suicide. CDC+1USAFacts+1

These numbers are not just statistics; they represent individuals—friends, family members, colleagues—whose lives were cut short by overwhelming despair.

Breaking the Silence: The Importance of Open Conversations

Mental health struggles often go unnoticed, hidden behind smiles and daily routines. The stigma surrounding mental illness can prevent individuals from seeking help, fearing judgment or misunderstanding. It’s crucial to foster environments where open, honest conversations about mental health are encouraged and supported.

Organizations like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) provide resources and support for those affected by mental health conditions. By promoting education and understanding, we can create a society where seeking help is seen as a strength, not a weakness.

Resources: You’re Not Alone

If you or someone you know is struggling, please know that help is available:

Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength. You are not alone, and there are people who care and want to support you.

Honoring Their Memories

In remembering Hunter and Carla, let us commit to being more compassionate, more attentive, and more open. Let’s check in on our loved ones, listen without judgment, and encourage conversations about mental health.

Their lives, though tragically shortened, can inspire us to create a world where mental health is prioritized, and no one feels they have to suffer in silence.

Hunter, Carla, your stories matter. May your memories be a catalyst for change, a reminder of the importance of connection, and a beacon of hope for those still fighting their battles.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please reach out. Help is available, and you are not alone.

Mental Health Helps: Contacts for reaching out

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How to Reach Out for Help When Struggling with Mental Health: Resources for Support

Mental health struggles are incredibly personal, and sometimes reaching out for help can feel overwhelming. Whether you are struggling with anxiety, depression, substance abuse, or issues related to sexual identity, there are multiple ways to get support. Seeking help is the first step toward healing, and there are numerous resources available to assist you in moments of crisis or to simply provide a listening ear when needed.

Here’s a guide on how to access the support you deserve.

1. Immediate Help: National Hotlines and Text Services

If you are in immediate distress, there are national helplines that offer confidential and free support, 24/7. These services can provide crisis intervention, emotional support, and guide you toward further resources.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA)

This is a free, confidential, 24/7 service that provides immediate support for anyone in crisis or experiencing suicidal thoughts. They also offer resources to help with mental health struggles such as depression, anxiety, and emotional distress.

Crisis Text Line

  • Text: Text “HELLO” to 741741
  • Website: Crisis Text Line
  • Available 24/7, Crisis Text Line offers text-based crisis intervention. It’s available for anyone experiencing stress, anxiety, panic attacks, or other emotional distress. Whether it’s a small issue or a life-threatening crisis, text lines offer help wherever you are.

The Trevor Project (LGBTQ+ Crisis Support)

  • Phone: 1-866-488-7386
  • Text: Text START to 678678
  • Website: The Trevor Project
  • The Trevor Project provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services specifically for LGBTQ+ youth, offering help in a safe, nonjudgmental space.

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)

  • Phone: 1-800-662-HELP (1-800-662-4357)
  • Website: SAMHSA Helpline
  • This is a free, confidential, 24/7 helpline for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders. SAMHSA offers referrals for treatment facilities, support groups, and more.

2. Specialized Support: Mental Health Resources for Specific Issues

For LGBTQ+ Youth:

  • PFLAG National
    • Phone: 1-202-467-8180
    • Website: PFLAG National
    • PFLAG is the first and largest organization for LGBTQ+ people, their parents, families, and allies. They offer local chapters that provide resources, support, and guidance for individuals navigating identity, especially in challenging times.

For Survivors of Sexual Abuse:

  • RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)
    • Phone: 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)
    • Online Chat: RAINN Online Chat
    • RAINN provides confidential support for survivors of sexual violence. Whether you need to speak with a counselor or are seeking help finding resources, RAINN is a trusted resource.

3. Mental Health Support Through Therapy and Counseling

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, talking to a therapist can provide professional support. There are numerous platforms that offer therapy services online or in-person. Many providers offer sliding scale fees to make counseling more affordable.

BetterHelp

  • Website: BetterHelp
  • BetterHelp is an online therapy platform where you can connect with licensed counselors through text, video calls, or phone calls. It’s a flexible option for people who may not have access to in-person therapy.

Talkspace

  • Website: Talkspace
  • Like BetterHelp, Talkspace connects you with licensed therapists for online sessions. You can access therapy through text, voice, or video chats, giving you a private and accessible way to reach out for help.

4. YouTube Resources and Mental Health Education

Sometimes, we just need a bit of guidance or even just to hear someone else’s story. YouTube has a variety of resources that offer mental health tips, coping strategies, and motivational support. Here are some helpful channels to check out:

  • Kati Morton
    • Channel: Kati Morton
    • Kati Morton is a licensed therapist who shares videos on mental health topics, ranging from anxiety and depression to relationship struggles and self-care.
  • Psychology In Seattle
    • Channel: Psychology In Seattle
    • Dr. Kirk Honda is a licensed therapist and professor who discusses real-world mental health topics, psychological theory, and personal experiences in a relatable way.
  • The Mighty
    • Channel: The Mighty
    • The Mighty shares empowering stories and educational videos on a wide range of topics, from mental health to chronic illnesses, and offers a supportive community for individuals living with disabilities and mental health challenges.

5. Local Support Groups and Services

In addition to national services, there are often local support groups that provide in-person or online gatherings. These groups can offer safe spaces to talk about your experiences and hear from others who may be going through similar struggles.

NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness)

  • Phone: 1-800-950-NAMI (1-800-950-6264)
  • Website: NAMI
  • NAMI offers support groups, resources, and education for individuals and families affected by mental health issues. They have local chapters across the United States that provide peer-led groups.

6. Apps for Mental Health and Wellness

Sometimes, technology can offer a supportive, non-judgmental way to practice self-care and manage mental health. Here are a few apps designed to help with mental wellness:

  • Calm
    • Website: Calm
    • Calm provides guided meditation, breathing exercises, and sleep stories to help reduce stress and promote relaxation.
  • Headspace
    • Website: Headspace
    • Headspace is another app that offers mindfulness and meditation resources to help manage anxiety, stress, and mental clarity.
  • Sanvello
    • Website: Sanvello
    • Sanvello offers a range of tools, from meditation to mood tracking and therapy. It’s designed to help with stress, anxiety, and depression.

You Are Not Alone

Struggling with your mental health can be isolating, but it’s important to remember that help is available. There is no shame in reaching out, whether it’s through a crisis hotline, therapy, or community resources. You deserve support, and these resources are here to offer just that.

Whether you’re dealing with mental health challenges, identity struggles, or substance abuse, there are people who care and who can help you navigate these tough times. Don’t hesitate to reach out—healing is possible, and taking the first step is often the hardest part. You are worth it.

Post election America…

by Mothersense, posted in Uncategorized

The Post-Election Atmosphere: Finding Hope, Healing, and Unity

The election season has come and gone, but its aftermath lingers in the hearts and minds of many Americans. For some, the results bring hope and optimism for the future, while for others, the uncertainty and division feel overwhelming. The heightened emotions, the rhetoric, the constant media barrage—it all takes a toll on mental health. But as we stand together in the post-election world, it’s important to remember that healing, hope, and unity are still possible. I know it can feel heavy right now, or maybe you are elated and find a sense of relief with the election results. Either way you still have to work alongside people who believe differently than you. Let’s find some ways to cope and find comfort in the coming days and months because we are all Americans and we have to keep moving forward. 

Understanding the Emotional Landscape

Regardless of the outcome, elections are more than just a political event. They are emotional milestones that reflect our values, fears, and dreams for the future. The stress leading up to the election—intensified by polarization, misinformation, and often divisive campaigns—can have lasting effects. Some people feel victorious, empowered by their candidate’s win, while others feel anxious, fearful, or even betrayed. For many, the fear isn’t just about who won or lost, but about what those outcomes could mean for their lives, their communities, and the country as a whole.

It’s crucial to acknowledge the fear and anxiety some are feeling. For people on either side of the aisle, the election process itself can sometimes feel like a giant game of tug-of-war, with the stakes so high that it becomes hard to see beyond the immediate moment. Many are grappling with a sense of uncertainty about the future, especially if they feel that the country’s direction no longer aligns with their values.

Yet, while this atmosphere may feel heavy, it is also an opportunity for us to pause, reflect, and find a way forward—together.

For Those Feeling Hopeful: Keep Building Bridges

For those who are feeling a sense of relief, joy, or hope after the election, it’s important to recognize that the journey doesn’t end at the ballot box. While victory may feel sweet, the true work of healing and unifying our nation starts now. The election is not a conclusion; it’s merely the next chapter.

You can be a source of hope for others by fostering understanding and empathy. Even if you feel your side has “won,” it’s essential to acknowledge that many others are struggling to come to terms with the results. Reaching out to those with differing opinions, listening to their concerns, and engaging in respectful conversations is a step toward healing. Our nation is built on the strength of our diverse perspectives, and we thrive when we come together, not when we retreat into isolated echo chambers.

So, continue to act with compassion. Continue to advocate for progress, but do so in a way that seeks common ground. Work on being inclusive, not just in policy but in your actions and words. This is how we make a real difference.

For Those Feeling Fearful or Uncertain: You Are Not Alone

If you’re feeling fearful or uncertain about the future, your emotions are valid. It’s okay to feel worried, and it’s okay to need time to process. The election results may have felt like a personal loss, especially if you deeply disagreed with the outcome or feel that your rights and values are under threat. But remember: feelings of fear, doubt, and anger are not the end of the story.

In these times, it’s crucial to take care of your mental and emotional health. Political anxiety can be real, and its effects on mental health are not to be underestimated. Feeling disillusioned, frustrated, or anxious about what comes next is normal, but it’s also important to find healthy ways to manage those emotions. This might mean limiting your exposure to the news or social media, connecting with a mental health professional, or simply giving yourself permission to step away from the constant cycle of political discourse.

It’s also vital to remember that change often happens gradually, and one election cycle does not define the future of a nation. If you are feeling despair or fear, try to focus on the things you can control. Invest in your community, support your local businesses, volunteer for causes you care about, or engage in meaningful conversations with others who may share your concerns. Change is not linear, and it’s okay to take a step back and regroup for the work ahead.

Moving Forward: Together as Fellow Americans

At the end of the day, we are all in this together. We all care deeply about the future of our country, even if we sometimes differ in our vision for it. The post-election atmosphere is a reflection of our democratic process—imperfect, yes, but driven by the shared ideal that each of us has a voice, and that voice matters.

No matter who you voted for, it’s essential that we all take a deep breath, reflect on our shared humanity, and move forward with a commitment to healing and understanding. It’s easy to focus on our differences, especially in such a polarized environment, but the future of America depends on our ability to find common ground, build bridges, and work together for the common good.

For both those who are feeling triumphant and those who are feeling fearful, there is hope. The future is not determined by the outcome of a single election—it is shaped by our collective actions, by how we treat each other, and by our willingness to listen, learn, and grow. Even in moments of uncertainty, there is always the possibility of growth, change, and healing.

Let’s move forward together—united as Americans, with empathy in our hearts and hope for a brighter tomorrow. After all, our nation was built not on perfection, but on the ability to continually strive to be better. Let’s keep striving. Together.

Here are some key numbers and resources that can help individuals who need mental health support:

1. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (988)

  • Phone Number: Dial 988 (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline)
  • Website: https://988lifeline.org/
  • Details: The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 for anyone in distress, including those experiencing mental health crises, suicidal thoughts, or emotional distress. This helpline connects callers to trained counselors who can provide support and resources. It does not involve law enforcement unless the caller is in immediate danger.

2. Crisis Text Line

  • Text Number: Text HOME to 741741
  • Website: https://www.crisistextline.org/
  • Details: The Crisis Text Line provides free, confidential support for anyone in crisis, offering text-based counseling services. It’s available 24/7, and trained crisis counselors are there to listen, offer support, and help guide people through the situation.

3. National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline

  • Phone Number: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)
  • Text Number: Text “NAMI” to 741741
  • Website: https://www.nami.org/
  • Details: NAMI’s helpline provides free, confidential support and information on mental health issues, including resources for individuals and families dealing with mental illness. The helpline offers guidance on where to seek care and how to find appropriate services without involving law enforcement.

4. The Trevor Project (For LGBTQ+ Youth)

  • Phone Number: 1-866-488-7386
  • Text Number: Text START to 678678
  • Website: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
  • Details: The Trevor Project offers a confidential helpline, text, and chat services for LGBTQ+ youth who are experiencing crisis or need support around mental health, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, or coming out. It’s available 24/7 and is specifically aimed at helping LGBTQ+ individuals.

5. Veterans Crisis Line

  • Phone Number: 1-800-273-8255 (Press 1)
  • Text Number: Text 838255
  • Website: https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/
  • Details: The Veterans Crisis Line is a 24/7 helpline for veterans in crisis. It provides confidential support for veterans and their families, helping with mental health issues and distress. Pressing “1” connects you directly to a specialized counselor, and the service does not involve law enforcement unless there is imminent danger.

6. SAMHSA National Helpline

  • Phone Number: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Website: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-treatment
  • Details: The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) helpline provides 24/7, confidential treatment referral and information for individuals and families facing mental or substance use disorders. SAMHSA helps individuals find nearby mental health providers, detox services, and recovery resources.

7. National Domestic Violence Hotline (For those experiencing abuse, which may include emotional abuse)

  • Phone Number: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
  • Text Number: Text “START” to 88788
  • Website: https://www.thehotline.org/
  • Details: While primarily focused on domestic violence, the hotline also provides support for people experiencing emotional and psychological abuse. It’s available 24/7 and offers confidential guidance and resources for individuals who are feeling unsafe or threatened.

8. Disaster Distress Helpline

  • Phone Number: 1-800-985-5990
  • Text Number: Text “TalkWithUs” to 66746
  • Website: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/disaster-distress-helpline
  • Details: This helpline is available for people who are experiencing distress related to natural or human-caused disasters. It provides immediate crisis counseling and support and helps connect individuals to ongoing mental health resources.

9. Mindful and Supportive Apps

10. Local Crisis and Community Support Lines

  • Many cities and states also offer local crisis helplines that can help connect individuals with mental health resources. These are often confidential and non-judgmental and do not involve law enforcement unless there is immediate danger. To find local mental health crisis resources, check your state or city’s official website or call SAMHSA’s helpline for recommendations.

Final Note:

The mental health crisis helplines listed above are designed to provide immediate support, counseling, and connection to services without involving law enforcement. They are valuable resources for individuals who may be struggling with emotional distress, suicidal thoughts, or general mental health concerns. It’s important for everyone to know that help is available—and they are never alone, even in the darkest moments.

Feel free to share these resources widely, as they can make a significant difference for those who need them.

Navigating life -Steps you can take

by Mothersense, posted in Uncategorized

Getting through the tough times – Steps you can take

If you have seen my previous posts, you know a bit of what we have been through and ways that I have tried to help my family cope with various struggles. Although I gave birth to 5 children, I also have had the honor to be a safe adult for several other children in my life-time. Meaning they either lived with me or were always coming to me to help them through difficult times. They are mostly adults now and still have struggles, but because they learned some coping skills, the struggles are not as difficult. This blog is to serve as a help in the conversation about mental health. It is filled with what has worked for us and what we tried. Mental health issues are not really a one size fits all, some meds will work for some and not so well for others. Therapy with a professional can be beneficial for everyone but takes time. What can be beneficial is to not stop trying, to keep looking for what works for you and your family. I will always advocate for being mindful of what you are CONSUMING, that means food, entertainment, information, social media, it will all have an effect on your mental health. Keeping all of this in mind, the following is a post about steps you can take while on your mental health journey. 

Are you someone who needs quiet? DO you crave some quiet alone time in your day to process, prepare or recuperate from your day? Here are some things that help with getting that little slice of quiet.

  1. Get up earlier than the rest of the family- I know it sounds hard but it can be beneficial for you to start your morning mentally preparing yourself for the day. You can have a quiet cup of coffee or listen to a bit of calming music, do your morning stretches, read your Bible, just some quiet “just me” time that is calm
  2. Stay up a bit later than everyone else. Yes, I did this quite a bit. In the evening you can also do some skincare, a soak in the tub, again music to wind down, reading a book or Bible study. I don’t recommend exercise before bedtime because the feel good hormones that are released actually serve to wake you up and you will not be going to sleep soon afterwards. 
  3. If you are a parent that has to pick up the kids, read while waiting in the pick up line. If you have to commute, listen to a podcast or audiobook. This isn’t entirely quiet, but it is a bit of time carved out for you to do something that is just for you. 

Do you feel like you just want to cry sometimes? Yeah, me too. Crying can be a beneficial emotional release, serving as a natural mechanism to process and alleviate stress or sadness. My husband will sometimes intentionally take time to watch something that he knows will make him cry, because he says it is cleansing. I agree it can be cleansing, but I am not set up to do what my husband does. I am that mom that has avoided the final episode of Supernatural because I knew the ending would be sad. I didn’t know the details BUT I just KNEW it would make me cry, all endings like that on tv shows make me cry. It’s over. No more. So yeah, I cried. I cried when I was going through Grey’s. I didn’t need to intentionally look for stuff, sometimes the news made me cry. Crying is normal and healthy. Sometimes it is overwhelming sadness and other times tears accompany great joy! 

When tears do flow, they often help to release pent-up emotions and can even trigger the release of endorphins, which act as natural painkillers and mood enhancers. To make the most of this cathartic experience, it’s useful to follow a few steps:

  1. Allow yourself to cry without judgment; acknowledging and accepting your emotions can lead to a more profound emotional release. 
  1. Find a safe and supportive environment where you can express yourself freely.
  1. After the tears have subsided, engage in self-care activities such as deep breathing, journaling, or talking to a trusted friend, to help you process the experience and regain a sense of balance. Embracing crying as a part of your emotional toolkit can foster resilience and lead to greater overall well-being.

We get to cry, however if you find yourself crying often and easily, then perhaps medical or therapeutic interventions should be pursued. 

The most important thing you can do for yourself or to help anyone who may struggle is to connect. Talk to someone or listen to someone when struggling. Connection to others has been proven to be the most vital aspect of mental health. 

Here’s a list of key contacts and resources for those struggling with mental health issues. It’s important to reach out to professionals or organizations that can provide support and guidance.

 Emergency Contacts:

1. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (U.S.): 1-800-273-TALK (8255)  

   – Available 24/7 for crisis support.

2. Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741  

   – Provides 24/7 support via text.

3. Emergency Services (U.S.): Dial 911  

   – For immediate assistance in a crisis situation. Ensure they operator is aware it is a mental health emergency

General Support:

1. NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness): 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)  

   – Provides information, support, and resources for mental health.

2. Mental Health America (MHA): 1-800-969-6642  

   – Offers mental health resources and support.

3. SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration): 1-800-662-HELP (4357)  

   – Provides information and referrals for mental health and substance use disorders.

Online Resources:

1. 7 Cups: [7cups.com](https://www.7cups.com)  

   – Offers free, anonymous online counseling and support.

2. BetterHelp: [betterhelp.com](https://www.betterhelp.com)  

   – Provides online therapy with licensed professionals.

3. Headspace: [headspace.com](https://www.headspace.com)  

   – Offers mindfulness and meditation resources.

International Contacts:

1. Samaritans (UK & Ireland): 116 123  

   – Offers support 24/7 for those in emotional distress.

2. Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14  

   – Provides 24/7 crisis support.

3. Crisis Services Canada: 1-833-456-4566  

   – Offers support through phone and text.

Remember, it’s essential to seek professional help if you or someone you know is struggling. These resources are a good starting point for finding the support needed. And remember the best lesson from Finding Nemo comes from Dory: “Just keep swimming” Make it a great day folks, the choice is in your hands.