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Low Flame, Big Impact: The Strength of Being Present

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Blog Post: A Low Flame Still Lights the Dark

I haven’t wanted to do much of anything this week. Oh, I’ve done the bare minimum the best I can. I have pain. I have grief. I have things that need doing, and absolutely no motivation to do them. Showering, cooking, cleaning—those things get done, though some days I have to talk myself into each one.

I check in on my kids. It probably annoys them sometimes; I ask the same questions and get mostly the same answers. But I hope they know I’m here. I’m listening. I cheer for them silently, and I cover them in prayer every. single. day.

Right now, I’m in my mostly silent era. I’m being still, being quiet, trying to heal the parts of myself I don’t share with the world. I’m taking a beat to remember who I am, what I stand for, and how to stay present. Even if “present” looks like me half-asleep on the couch, waiting to welcome my daughter home after her trip to say goodbye to a friend who could no longer bear the weight of his pain.

I keep reminding myself that I am not expected to have all the answers. That others need grace and mercy. That the time and space I occupy matter—and simply being present matters.

Readers, when you come across this, and as you move through your day and all the days to come, please remember to be kind. You never know what battle someone else is carrying. I’ve studied world religions and belief systems, and one major tenet shows up in every single one: don’t be a jerk. Do good where you can. Help those who struggle. We have to be the light, even if sometimes we’re only a low flame.

Always,
Julie 🙂

Embracing Imperfection: Finding Grace in Struggle

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

I’m Letting You in on a Little Secret…

I’m going to let you guys in on a little secret: I do not have all of my ducks in a row!

Shocking, right? I know a little bit (or maybe a whole lot) about a great deal of things — cooking, baking, sautéing, homemaking, making money stretch — you name it. I’ve built real skills over the years, and I take pride in them. But even with all that knowledge, I still have those days. The ones that make me want to crawl back into bed and pull the covers over my head. The days that drag on so long and hard that I catch myself wishing the time away.

Yes, I know how to make money work for me, but I’ll be honest — once the needs are covered, I still struggle. Do I treat myself to something nice? Save it for later? Spend it on my kids? The internal debate is real.

I live with PTSD and anxiety. I get “blue” days — not what I’d call depression, but heavy enough that I feel it in my bones. I’ve seen true depression up close — in my children, in my ex-husband, in others I love — and it has taught me a lot about compassion, patience, and grace.

Some days, I’m full of energy and optimism, ready to take on the world. And other days… I’m lucky if I can get supper cooked. And that’s okay. I’ve learned that even with all my knowledge — about money, about mental health, about coping — some days just aren’t it.

On those days, I have to remind myself: give yourself grace. Say, “Enough. Be still. Rest.” You don’t have to do it all — especially today.

But here’s the tricky part: rest can easily turn into avoidance if we’re not careful. It’s important to recognize what’s going on and act accordingly. Listen to your instincts. Listen to your body. Rest when you need to — but also, when it’s time, get up and move.

Take the shower. Bake the bread. Step outside and touch grass.

We’re all learning in this life — every second, every day. We just have to keep showing up.

And if you ever feel like you fell short or owe someone an apology — do it, mean it, and move on. Know better, do better. Every. Single. Day.

Love and light,
💛 Julie

Conquer Financial Stress: Budgeting Strategies for Mental Wellness

by Mothersense, posted in financial-planning, This Life

Too Much Month at the End of Your Money? Let’s Fix That

Money stress hits hard — and not just your wallet. It weighs on your mind, affects your mood, and can make even simple decisions feel overwhelming. If you’ve ever found yourself staring at your bank account wondering how there’s still so much month left at the end of your money, you are not alone.

The truth is, financial strain can take a serious toll on your mental health. But with the right plan, some practical tools, and a little bit of grace, you can turn that stress into confidence and stability.

Step One: Understand Where Your Money Is Going

Before you can get ahead financially, you have to get real about where your money is going. Start by dividing your spending into two main categories:

✅ Needs

The essentials that keep you and your family safe and secure — food, housing, clothing, transportation, insurance, and healthcare.

💸 Wants

The things that add fun, convenience, or comfort — eating out, streaming subscriptions, impulse purchases, hobbies, or luxury items.

When you clearly see the difference between needs and wants, you can make smarter choices about where your money goes — without feeling deprived.

Step Two: Create a Flexible Financial Game Plan

A budget shouldn’t feel like a punishment. It’s a tool that helps you take control. And I can help you build one that actually works for your lifestyle.

Here’s how we can start:

  • 🍲 Budget-friendly meal ideas that taste great and stretch your grocery dollars.
  • 🛒 Meal planning and prep strategies to save you time (and reduce stress).
  • 📱 Smart grocery hacks — couponing, delivery services, and avoiding impulse buys.
  • 💰 Insurance and legal guidance, from understanding coverage to writing your will.
  • 🧓 Retirement planning, even if you feel “behind.”

And when life throws a curveball — like a surprise car repair or medical bill — your plan should be strong and flexible enough to adjust without derailing your progress.

Step Three: Protect Your Mental Health

Money stress can creep into every corner of your life if you let it. That’s why it’s so important to take care of you while you’re taking care of your finances.

Here are a few simple ways to stay grounded:

  • Take a walk and get some fresh air.
  • Try deep breathing or shoulder rolls to release tension.
  • Do yoga or stretch for a few minutes.
  • And yes — go outside barefoot and touch grass. It really does help.

For me personally, grocery delivery has been a sanity-saver. I avoid impulse buys, stick to my list, and save time and energy. The delivery fee? Totally worth it. Plus, meal planning keeps our household running smoothly — we rarely eat out, and rotating a few favorite meals keeps things simple and affordable.

Step Four: Give Yourself Grace

Financial change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s about progress, not perfection. Some weeks will go smoothly, and others will feel messy — and that’s okay. What matters is that you’re trying, learning, and adjusting along the way.

Remember: you don’t have to do this alone.

Let’s Take the Stress Out of Your Finances — Together

If you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed and ready to take control of your money and your mental health, I’m here to help.

Whether you need:

  • A custom budget plan that fits your life
  • Affordable meal ideas and grocery strategies
  • Guidance on insurance, legal, or retirement planning

…I’ve got you. Let’s work together to build a plan that gives you peace of mind and helps you breathe easier — financially and emotionally.

👉 Schedule a Consultation : Julie Kilcrease

JKILCREASE@primerica.com United States Texas : ‪(254) 677-7510‬

Surviving Overwhelm: Mental Health Tips for Today

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Coping With Mental Health in Trying Times: Surviving the Storm When Everything Feels Overwhelming

There are moments in life when it feels like the weight of the world is pressing down on you. The kind of moments where everything seems to be stacking up—the bills are piling high, school is back in session, and the news feels like a relentless wave of tragedy. The pressure builds, leaving you running on fumes, emotionally drained, and unsure of how much more you can take.

Right now, many of us are living through a perfect storm of challenges. The reality of rising costs, personal responsibilities, and the heavy weight of constant bad news can leave you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and even numb. If you feel like you’re just taking it day by day, doing your best to survive, you’re not alone. And while these times are undeniably difficult, there are ways to cope, find balance, and regain a sense of peace. Here are some strategies to help you navigate the mental strain of living through these trying times in America.

1. Acknowledge the Reality of What You’re Feeling

One of the hardest parts of mental strain is the guilt that often comes with it. We’ve been conditioned to push through, to “keep going” no matter what. But it’s okay to not be okay. When life is overwhelming, acknowledging your feelings is the first step toward healing. Whether you’re angry, scared, numb, or sad, allow yourself the space to sit with those emotions without judgment. You don’t have to be “better” or “stronger” every single moment.

When you name your emotions, you take the first step toward regaining control. Feeling overwhelmed is a natural response to these challenging times, but it doesn’t define you. By validating your emotions, you allow yourself permission to cope, heal, and move forward.

2. Practice Radical Self-Care (Yes, It’s Important!)

Self-care has become a buzzword in recent years, but it’s not just about face masks and bubble baths—it’s about setting boundaries and prioritizing your mental and physical health. In times of stress, it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself, but the reality is that without a solid foundation, it’s harder to weather the storms of life.

Start with small, achievable acts of self-care that nourish your body and mind. This could mean:

  • Sleep: Rest is non-negotiable. When you’re running on empty, a solid night’s sleep is essential for emotional and mental recovery.
  • Nutrition: Eat nourishing foods that give your body the energy it needs to tackle the day, even if it’s just a balanced snack.
  • Movement: Whether it’s a walk, yoga, or a dance party in your living room, moving your body can release stress and elevate your mood.
  • Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness or meditation, even if it’s just five minutes of deep breathing. The present moment is all we have, and grounding yourself can offer some much-needed relief.

3. Limit Your Media Consumption

It can feel like the world is burning down when you’re constantly glued to the news. From national tragedies to political chaos, the media can feel overwhelming and relentless. While staying informed is important, there’s a fine line between being aware and being consumed by it.

Consider setting boundaries on how much news you consume daily, and make time for things that uplift you. Try a digital detox—take a day off from social media, limit your news intake, and focus on things that bring you joy, whether that’s reading a book, spending time with loved ones, or enjoying nature.

4. Reevaluate Your Priorities

When life feels like it’s in constant crisis mode, it’s easy to get caught up in the demands of work, school, finances, and responsibilities. But sometimes, it’s important to step back and ask yourself: What’s really important right now?

  • Can you delegate some tasks to make life a little less overwhelming?
  • Are there things you can let go of, even temporarily, to give yourself space to breathe?
  • Do you have the energy to take on everything on your plate right now, or is it okay to ask for help?

Setting boundaries around your time and energy is not only okay—it’s necessary. Whether it’s saying “no” to an extra project at work or asking a friend or family member for help with errands, reclaiming your personal time is essential for mental health.

5. Find Support in Your Community

You don’t have to go through tough times alone. Whether it’s a trusted friend, a support group, or a therapist, talking about your feelings can help you feel seen, heard, and less isolated. Sharing the burden with others, even if it’s just a text or a phone call, can make a world of difference.

If you’re not already, consider reaching out to a mental health professional. Therapists and counselors are trained to help you navigate difficult emotions and offer tools for coping. Therapy isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a way to strengthen your resilience and build healthy coping mechanisms for the future.

6. Focus on What You Can Control

In times of chaos, focusing on the things you can control helps to ground you. You may not be able to change the headlines or the world’s circumstances, but you can take control of how you respond.

Maybe that means focusing on your daily routine, budgeting your finances, or creating small, achievable goals. When things feel out of control, taking one step at a time toward something you can manage brings back a sense of agency.

7. Find Purpose in the Chaos

It’s easy to feel lost and overwhelmed when things are falling apart around you. But sometimes, finding a sense of purpose can bring clarity. This might mean reconnecting with your passions, getting involved in your community, or finding new ways to help others.

When we’re able to focus on something larger than ourselves, it can put the stresses of life into perspective. Helping others or contributing to a cause can also bring a sense of fulfillment and connection that’s hard to find in times of isolation.

8. Remember, You’re Not Alone

Living in America right now can feel uniquely stressful—whether it’s economic struggles, political tensions, or social upheaval, the strain can feel heavy. But in these moments, remember: You are not alone. Millions of people are navigating these same challenges, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. It’s okay to lean on others, to ask for help, and to give yourself the grace you need to heal.

In these tough times, survival might look different for each of us. It might mean focusing on day-to-day coping strategies, seeking therapy, or simply taking a break from the news. Whatever your journey looks like, remember that it’s okay to not have all the answers, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time.

Conclusion: Keep Going, One Day at a Time

The light at the end of the tunnel may seem dim right now, but it is there, even if it’s hard to see. Each day you keep going is a victory. You’re doing your best, and that’s all you can do. Be kind to yourself. Take small steps to care for your mental health, and remember that it’s okay to seek support. In trying times, surviving isn’t just about enduring—it’s about finding ways to thrive, no matter how small those steps may seem.

If you’re struggling, know that there is help, and there is hope. Keep pushing forward, and know that brighter days are ahead.

love and light y’all!!!

The Power of Empathy: Finding Hope Amidst Suffering

by Mothersense, posted in This Life

Is it just me?

Cautiously Optimistic: Navigating the Weight of Others’ Pain

I’ve often described myself as a cautiously optimistic person. It’s a way of being that helps me face the challenges of life with hope but without completely abandoning my awareness of how fragile things can be. I try to hold on to the belief that things will get better, that there is light at the end of every dark tunnel. Yet, beneath this cautious optimism is something much deeper—an empathy that can feel all-consuming. I feel everything, and when I say everything, I mean everything.

It’s as if my heart is finely attuned to the pain of the world. When I see someone struggling, whether it’s a close friend or a stranger, I feel their burden. I feel their sadness, their frustration, their fear. It’s hard to explain to those who don’t share this experience, but it’s almost as if I can physically feel their emotions in my own body. And with this heightened sense of empathy comes a natural desire to help. If I’m in, I’m all in. When someone I care about is hurting, I will do everything within my power to ease their pain. But here’s where the challenge lies: No matter how much I want to help, no matter how deeply I feel their suffering, I can’t fix everything.

And that’s the part that has become so difficult. Everywhere I go, I see people struggling. Whether it’s a friend facing a personal crisis, a family member dealing with loss, or a stranger encountering hardships I’ll never fully understand, it feels like there is a constant presence of pain in the world. It’s overwhelming at times. And as much as I want to be there for everyone, as much as I want to ease their suffering and show them that they are not alone, I feel a sense of helplessness that gnaws at me.

I think the hardest part is that the more I care, the more I absorb. I can’t turn off my empathy. When someone is hurting, I can’t just ignore it or pretend it doesn’t affect me. So, I carry these burdens with me. I hold space for others’ pain even when I have nothing left to give. This emotional weight becomes part of my daily existence, and sometimes, it feels like it’s a battle to simply get through the day without being overwhelmed.

Coping has become a process—a continuous, daily, and sometimes hourly, practice. I’ve learned to breathe through moments of heaviness, to step back and remind myself that it’s okay not to have all the answers. I’ve had to accept that my capacity to help is limited, that sometimes, the best thing I can offer is simply my presence, my listening ear, and my unwavering support. But that doesn’t always feel like enough. I want to do more—to take away the pain, to find a solution, to make it all better. The frustration of knowing that I can’t is, at times, unbearable.

But as I reflect on these feelings, I realize that my cautious optimism isn’t about ignoring the pain or pretending that everything is fine. It’s about holding space for hope, even in the face of suffering. It’s about recognizing that while I may not have the power to fix everything, I do have the ability to show up, to care, and to be a source of light in the lives of others.

The truth is, I may never be able to ease all of the burdens that I see around me, and that’s something I have to come to terms with. But I also believe that even the smallest acts of kindness, empathy, and support can make a difference. They may not erase the pain, but they can help carry it for a little while. And maybe, just maybe, that’s enough.

So, I’ll continue to navigate the world with this cautious optimism—holding space for the pain I encounter, but also holding space for the hope that one day, things will get better. I’ll keep doing what I can, even when it feels like it’s not enough, because I know that the journey of healing is a shared one. We may not always have the power to solve each other’s problems, but we can always choose to walk alongside each other, offering empathy, understanding, and love. And in the end, maybe that’s the most important thing we can do.