Do people change? Can meaningful change occur because a person tries? Can changes happen because of circumstances? SO many people I know think that people do not change who they are at the core of thier being. I know that people CAN change. Sometimes the changes are not for the better. They change in reaction to circumstances. They choose to invest their time differently and it alters how they live their lives and the people they interact with on a regular basis.
I have to believe that people change. I know that they can change for the better and I know they can change for the worse. But the point is that people do change. It does not happen overnight. A lifetime of habits cannot be broken overnight. A chain smoker will not simply quit cold turkey and never pick up the habit again. A truck driver who has spent his life with irregular sleep habits will not be fixed in mere days. It takes time and real effort.
My husband is experiencing numerous changes, he hasn’t been able to work. He is fighting the pain and the feelings of uselessness. I suspect he battles some depression as well although I cannot imagine that he would admit it. My children are in a loving home and yet we seem to be in constant upheaval because there is no diagnosis for their dad’s lengthy battle with this pain. I do not know what is causing the pain. We have been able to get in to see a doctor and this doctor seems to think that there may be more to it than post surgical pain. It may be his back. It may be the actual structure of his body that is supposed to support him. But with all of this I see my husband changing…I expect it is a temporary change because we are climbing uphill with this medical mess but it is a change.
I see a change in myself. I see me snapping and being resentful of having the majority of the responsibilities land on my shoulders, or I am doling out more responsibility to my older children and they are not the least bit happy about it. The changes they are taking place and whether they are permanent or only temporary they happen.
My point in this post about change is that it is inevitable. Change happens. People can change. No one will change overnight (unless there is a medical trauma involved and then it is possible). Change takes work. Change is hard to accept. Let us pray that the changes are good for us. Let me not lose hope in this situation. Lets take this time to grow closer as a family so that we may be stronger when we do come out the other side of it all.
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